Why do working women and feminists do this...?

Question

why do working women and/or feminists tend to degrade women who "make the choice" to stay home and care for their household and take care of their kids on their own without outside help such as schools and daycares. Why, in a society that encourage equality, are these women frowned upon by working women. Isn't this really just a "career choice", in which women are guiding their own kids in life - full time (in my case I'm a homeschooling parent). Although they don't receive a pay check, there are many other rewards - money is not everything.

Answer 1

I'm a working woman, and I've never put down a woman for her choice to stay home.  I would not do it myself, but I don't see any reason to impose my views on someone else.  Good for you if that's what you like to do.  I don't think either choice is better than the other one.

Answer 2

Because they are liberals, and liberals have no logical rational for what they do or say.

Answer 3

Well, I don't and I think that's a really unfair generalization.  My dear darling friend had a baby last year; she's decided to stay at home to raise it and I would NEVER frown on her for making a choice that makes her happy.

Actually though, if you are schooling your kids then you ARE sort of a working woman (a teacher), come to think of it :).

Now quit trying to demonize 'feminists'.  If you believe women should have equal rights and treatment then you too are a feminist.

Answer 4

Though I don't agree with the home schooling, I believe the feminists typically view mothers/wives who choose to raise their kids and keep a home as unwilling victims of the oppressive patriarchy.

Answer 5

I don't degrade them and never have. Once upon a time I would have liked to trade places with them. Why are you degrading us? MANY of us don't feel that way at all.

Answer 6

We don't. I don't know why people keep acting like we do when, so far, most of us have done little but express respect for women who consciously choose to do anything. I would hate to stay at home, but to be frank, I don't give a d**n whether other women like it or not.

I don't frown upon you because you stay at home. I frown upon you because you make it seem like money is the only motivation for a woman who chooses to work.

Answer 7

Not all women working outside of the home do that. Nor do all feminists. Only the ones who are insecure...

and only the insecure SAHMS get oversensitive about.

Live your life. Don't worry so much what others think.

Answer 8

I personally fell such a life choice is not the best because it is not healthy for children to grow up in a little bubble being constantly exposed to the attention of their parent(s). children need to climb trees play with each other and learn from a variety of adults. (unfortunately schools are not up to that standard). I know this, because I was home schooled (by teachers mind you) and until today I feel less confident about anything involving groups and physical activity. Also to be a full person, one needs their family, that is true, but also other things that will help you to develop as a person: my friend had a mum whose life was mostly centered around her children: he felt that she was unhappy and didn't have a life of her own. Children need to see that you have a life, they need to observe the way an adult lives his/her life. So for me both a city lawyer who works 12 hours a day and a full-time stay at home mum or dad are an example of a way of living that lacks balance and is one sided.

Also bear in mind that in todays society people often measure your achievement though your salary: this is sad and despicable , nevertheless true. It is true of the stay at home mum, as it is of the struggling painter, or writer who doesn't make much money.

Answer 9

"why do working women and/or feminists tend to degrade women who "make the choice" to stay home and care for their household and take care of their kids on their own without outside help such as schools and daycares."

Can you show me where they do this please? Thanks.

Answer 10

I know they do and its wrong. However, many stay at home mothers degrade working women.

IT s a way of making themselves feel better in a world that many women feel that one is damned if you do, damned if you don't.

Answer 11

I would never degrade a woman OR man for choosing to stay home to raise their children; it's one of the most important jobs out there.

I'd probably make a similar choice if I had children of my own in fact.  (I believe one parent should be home with young children whether it is Mommy OR Daddy)  

You presume that "working women" and "feminists" are all the same.  We are not.  Perhaps if you want some understanding from others you should start by trying to understand those "others" yourself.

Answer 12

Simply- they don't.   However something in your "question" alarms me.  Now parents are wrong for sending their kids to school?   Oh my.  

I'm a trained educator but I would never have undertaken the task of educating my own children.

Answer 13

My hat is off to you, dear. I wish I could do what you do and be happy about it all, but I can't. I also firmly believe in my child's traditional education, because it did me good. Thank you very much. Now, if you are happy about your choices in life, why does it bother you how other people feel about it?  I would not worry about it at all, after all what do we know about your life? And why should we worry about your choices?

Answer 14

The most important job anyone can have is raising children.  Otherwise, the children will grow up and find themselves in prison...  hrm wait a sec, aren't our prisons overflowing as of late?

Anyway, stay at home moms have the best job in the world.  Shaping the minds of the family's future.  Don't worry about what those ladies say about home makers, any decent man will make you feel great about it.  And other men will envy him.  Live your life and be happy.

Wise man once said, "Work to live, don't live to work."  If you don't have to work, that's the best place to be in the world.

Though, school is still a good thing to make use of.  Heck, you get hit hard with property taxes...  might as well make use of it.

Answer 15

I think everyone nowadays has become work-obsessed, and see being in paid employment as the only valid way for anyone, man or woman, to spend their time.

It used to be, that people only worked if they had to, if they could afford not to, then they didn't.  But nowadays everyone is supposed to want to work all the time, and the idea of having leisure time is horrific to most people.

You are not supposed to enjoy being at home with your children, you're supposed to find them boring and want someone else to look after them.  But it's presumably okay for someone else to look after them if they are being paid for it, because that makes it a job, and I suppose that makes it not boring.  It all seems to make sense to those who believe it anyway.