Why do you think its funny that I had an abortion???

Question

I made a comment on a previous page as the girl wrote a story saying she was so happy she didnt go through with her abortion and she is por and 19 and bla bla and i felt she was making people that had an abortion feel bad because they had and abortion!!! I told a little about my situation and that I had 2 abortions in my life and anyway....just wondering about the woman that said I made her laugh cos I killed my children???? she can actually go F her self because she does not know my situation at the time and my coice!!! just because you may be against abortion, it gives you no right to laugh at me when it was an awful time in my life and a very hard decision! I dont want to explain what I went through because it was very traumatic and I dont really want to re live it all as i have tried to get past it. I now have a husband and lovely lil 1 year old boy and we can give him a wonderul life and we are so very happy!!! sorry its not a question but love to hear your thoughts!!!

Answer 1

This may not be what you were looking for, but 2 abortions?  Come on, what were you expecting?  Applause?  Unfortunately there are many new and expectant mothers mothers on this forum, so hearing that you were irresponsible enough to get pregnant and then abort not only 1, but 2 babies is just a little much, especially when some women try and try but are never able to get pregnant.  Perhaps refrain from giving so much info, otherwise you are going to get backlash.

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Do tell then, if you weren't irresponsible, and you seem to want to tell your side of the story, how exactly did you end up having 2 abortions?

Sounds like you need to take responsibility for your actions.  Getting pregnant at 16 is IRRESPONSIBLE!!!  Why did you have s*x in the first place?  Didn't you know where babies came from?  Were you not aware that s*x leads to pregnancy?  Unless you were raped, your pregnancies were a result of irresponsibility.  And you are the one wanting patted on the back and reassured that it was ok, as evidenced in your initial question!  No sympathy here!

Answer 2

Unfortunately, in this country killing an innocent child does not count as murder.  Fortunately, it's something that will eat at you forever.  Abortion isn't funny, but it IS murder.

Answer 3

I didnt see where she laughed at you, did she email it to you? ne ways no its not right to laugh at someone about that. but also its not right to abort unless its rape or a medical issue that neither mom or baby would survive in my opninon. BUT THAT IS MY OPNINON. I dont judge anyone that i dont know their story, but some like the one i saw earlier that said she didnt like all her abortions just cause it made her privates big and loose, those pis* me off to no end because its like they are making light of the whole subject when there is nothing light about it.

Answer 4

You can't speak for all Australians thanks!!!  I am Australian and I would prefer if you don't speak on my behalf.  If you won't tell people your story how do you expect them to understand your situation?  People are thinking you stuffed up with contraceltion or something.  Also, there is a morning after pill.  f yur life was in danger I could understand that though as both you and the baby wouldn't have survived.

Answer 5

I don't think it is a funny situation at all. I am sorry that you had to face a desicion like that. I am sure it was not easy for you . Probley you made the right choice. It is so sad that many have to judge, it is not our place. I wish you luck with your marriage and son.

Answer 6

u shouldnt abort what if you rparents were just like hey i dont want a baby i just want to have s*x without taking birth pills and comdoms u wouldnt be here

NEVER ABORT!!!

Answer 7

i dont know your story or situation, but i believe there are certain situations where an abortion would be the best choice. like you said, with rape, ect.

for you, if it wasnt a situation like that, you have to live with it. not us. dont let anyone put you down because of your desision. you made it and its over with. (good luck with everything)

and to be honest, i would rather hear an abortion story then a story later on when the child is on here telling how its life was because of whatever might have happened. my mother should have never had kids. she wasnt stable or happy enough with her own life to try adn raise a child. i would never wish a life like that upon any one else.

Answer 8

you said it yourself, she doesn't know you, your situation and so on.. so who cares about what she thinks? she's probably never been in your situation anyway..

you can't let idiots like that get to you, their opinion is irrelevant.. at the same time you have to expect that mentioning those details is going to get some people riled up, it's a touchy subject to begin with..

Answer 9

I myself am a new mother, and it doesn't bother me if people come on and speak of abortions.

I do not know your circumstances, and I must say kudos to you for telling her off. Why would someone laugh at that?

Before my sister had her son she was pregnant and was told the baby was not developing VITAL organs to sustain life.

Her choices were, to abort OR have the child, and it would live a short painful death hooked up to life support and machines and whatnot. She decided for the SAKE of the CHILD to abort. It was a very very hard decision because she loved the baby that was growing inside of her, and loved it enough to not make it's short life miserable..

Would you laugh at that? Will my sister go to h**l for that? i think not.

Answer 10

Nothing is amusing about someone having to make that choice or deciding to have one.  The only thing I wonder is if you really had no doubts or regrets about your decision would you be on here defending yourself and looking for others to help you feel better.

Answer 11

my personal views are that a women has a right to choose and a a responsibility to act wisely understanding that the implication of any choice on this difficult subject will be part of their life forever.

Therefore I utterly respect whatever choices you made regardless of the situation that caused you to feel like you had to make them. i do however think that a forum such as this is not necessarily the best place for sharing this sort of detail - as in your case the repossesses have been judgemental and (IMO) hard hearted. Given your need o discuss and indeed justify my only real answer is you shoudl seek out folks who you believe you can trust to work through any emotion that these debates have had on you

all the best

Answer 12

It's not funny that other women murder innocent babies and will go to h**l afterwards for killing.

Answer 13

wtf!!! what rights does that person has to laugh at other people's business like that! your descicion is the best that can be because you are thriving right now . So that descision was the best because it is part of how you got to where you are now!

Answer 14

You're very right, that was your decision(s) and you're the only one who knows your circumstances at the time. Although I don't believe in having abortions myself, or condone them, I do believe it's a personal decision and every person has a right to make that type of personal decision on their own without being harassed or persecuted for it.