Why do you think my cousin hasn't called me?

Question

She came to my state to visit about a month and a half ago. Before that we used to talk on the phone atleast once a day.

When she came, she wanted my family and I to go to the beach with her and her family. I agreed to go, but told her I wouldn't be getting in the water. For one, I can't swim. Two, it was that time of the month and I can't wear tampons(sorry for details). Three, I don't like getting in waters which have sea critters(jellyfish and such). Four, our car is a piece of c**p and overheats regularly. Nonetheless, I agreed to go. Even her man and my man didn't want to go or get in the water.

Anyway, she suddenly starts packing her stuff to go back to their hotel(a two hour drive, and it was almost 10 at night). She was supposed to spend the night at my place one more night, and we were supposed to BBQ, or play cards or do something.

But anyways, as she was leaving, she asks me to please come up to their hotel and spend the night, so we can all go swimming in the hotel pool

Answer 1

Give her a call and just ask her if she has any issues with you..........

Answer 2

call her and apologize about her having a bad time...even if you don't' know what you did wrong!!!    This will probably get her to tell you what is wrong, or maybe she is embarrassed about something that you don't' know about.  Even when the other person is a jerk, an apology for a perceived faux pas can mend a relationship.  You should realize that future visits should be short and sweet.

Answer 3

sounds like she got miffed cuz you wouldn't do what she wanted to do.

If she is a reasonable person, then she will eventually get over it.

Answer 4

This makes no sense..you are rambling on... on and on..  I have no freaking idea what way is up.

OK.. I had to read this twice..  

You went out of your way to take care of family and they are acting like you don't mean a thing to them now.  

I would be careful of expections on this cousin.  I would expect NOTHING and hope for the best.

Answer 5

You can choose your friends, but you have no choice when it comes  to family.

I think that you need to explain to her that you feel slighted because you went out of your way for her, but you don't think that she was willing to go out of her way for you.

I know how you feel, I have an aunt who apparently is just as selfish.

Answer 6

Well, relatives do get like that. They have their plans and you have yours. There are certain relatives who believe that no matter what - their plans rule and they get like this when you don't just go along with whatever they want. It's funny because usually adults are worse than the kids. In my in laws family, I'm supposed to always follow every step of their plan while on vacation. I can't even decide when I'd like to pee without consulting their plans.....so we just don't vacation together very often anymore. I can't offer ideas, suggest something I'd like to do and have them go along with that - but they can pick any horrendous and boring activity and have no choice in the matter. So, it's between antique shopping and driving to the old home where my sister in law lived 25 years ago to see the house and then off for a family pontoon boat ride during a thunderstorm and back to the hotel for a swim - while mother in law and boyfriend go off to a steak house and leave us all with pizza - none of which are enjoyable activities that constitute a vacation at all for me or most people I know. Well, you have ups and downs and hot and cold times in any close relationship - relatives being especially touchy - so I'd just let it be for now and let her contact you when she is ready. I try to bend and go along with things I hate doing all the time for their sake- but they could at least ask me what I'd like to do and include some activities others enjoy - but no - some people just want to be in charge of everything and if they are not - they won't do it. Like my in laws want to throw my kids' birthday parties, but if I make the decision to throw one myself - they won't show up. It's so petty and silly really - oh well. Life is enjoyable outside of relatives - that's why the people closest to me are called friends!

Answer 7

I would keep trying but she definitely blow it of of proportion.