Why do you think single mothers are encouraged to surrender...?

Question

and single mothers are able to and encouraged to adopt?

Answer 1

Because raising kids alone is tough.  However, I know several young women who have chosen to keep their babies.  They are great mothers with great kids.  I believe it's a personal choice that no one should be pushed into.

Answer 2

I have seen this posted over and over again and it is something I was unaware was going on, or at least not since the 1950's. Especially since there is not a bad stigma attached to single mothers anymore.. so I am very curious as to how single mothers are being coerced into giving up their children. because my wife gave birth as a single mother at age 16 and would have fought tooth and nail had anyone dared take her child..So since I am blissfully unaware to this pratice I am asking HOW?

Answer 3

This is adoption agencies and facilitators talking out of both sides of their mouths so they can line their pockets.  It is a hypocrisy that they hope that surrendering mothers won't notice.

Also, people think that because a pregnancy is unplanned (which is true for many single moms), the child is "unwanted" and should be given to someone who is planning for a child (who has money of course).  Yes, initially there is some angst and uncertainty with an unplanned pregnancy but that does not mean that the mother does not want the child.  Many women who surrender desperately want their children, but rather than being counseled on how to provide for the child they are presented with adoption as an "easy" solution.

And ...  the child?  The child's feelings about adoption get lost in the deal.

YoooHoooo - wow - awesome wife!  Good for her.  Families of young women who experience unplanned pregnancies are very influential in the surrender/parent the child decision.  Some parents throw their daughters out on the street if they do not "choose" adoption.  Many adoption decisions are from financial coercion - either through the parents removing support (for daughters still in school) or from people convincing young women that they will be bad parents if they cannot buy their kids every new piece of c**p in the store.

Answer 4

$.

Answer 5

I don't think so many single pregnant women are encouraged (in USA at least) to surrender anymore.  I think it is so socially acceptable to have a baby when single that most people don't think twice about it.  

As far as young girls (teens) people assume they are not capable of taking care of a child (likely aren't, though some may be) and most states require that a single person be 25 to adopt I believe.  Married age is different.

Answer 6

it's the $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$

If a single vulnerable woman without a support network even mentions the word 'adoption' as a possibility in the USA - BAM!  She's doomed, they will not let her off the hook without a fight, they coerce and convince her

The same agency that represents the waiting (and paying) single adoptive mother 'counsel' the vulnerable woman!! talk about a conflict of interest - you can bet they're not 'counselling' her in the direction of parenting.

Usually the same attorney represents both the mother and the adoptive mother, another clear conflict of interest!  Where else could you have the same attorney representing both parties??!!!

Unless she is extremely strong, or has a network of support, the coercion can be so relentless that she won't stand a chance.  Sadly in the end, even if a mother wishes to keep her child she may feel 'obligated' to hand her child over.  No mother should ever be put in this position

I have heard many many stories of this coercion, it starts from the 'dear birthmother' letters designed to convince a mother that the adoptive parents are so much better than the mother and that the child would be better off with them - ick ick ick

It's a horrid system there in the USA, just repugnant

Answer 7

Because if a single mom decides to parent her child, no one makes thousands of dollars on it.

Answer 8

Agencies & attorneys make big money.  Older infertile couples who frittered away their fertility demand children, and women who for whatever (often temporary) reason(s) are shamed into believing that married strangers are better able to raise their flesh & blood.

It's not true.

Answer 9

Adoption is a profit based business.  Even the non-profit agencies profit from adoption.  If the real cost of adoption is $7,000 to $10,000, what is the point of agencies charging $30,000 on up?  It is about money.  Some agencies in Guatemala have been reported to making $750,000 per day.  That is quite a bit of motive for coercion, lying, deception, abducting and stealing of children.

Answer 10

This is in response to yoohooo also. Believe me it is happening out there ALOT. Just because you have not been around someone it has happened to you are totally unaware of the damage and heart break these baby brokers are causing these young girls and their families. And they do not give a dam about these children they are selling either. It would not surprise me after some of the court results on a few of these cases to find this scandal goes up pretty high. I say follow the money and see who's pockets it ends up in then we will know who was in on this horrible event. And nothing would surprise me anymore.