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Why do you think some people are so appalled by women who are childless by choice?

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Earlier in the day someone posted a question regarding being a woman and not wanting children, and not being interested in doing domestic chores. One person replied that women who do not want children are "not normal" "defective," and even likened them to cattle that have been deemed useless because they will not reproduce, and so they are immediately slaughtered (I thought most cattle were artificially inseminated, but anyway...). In a email to this user, he said that the reason why so many people thumbed him down is because he simply stated the truth, which is not PC, and people just got offended. Now this person received an overwhelming amount of thumbs down, with just a handful of thumbs up. It seems that most people do not share this viewpoint, but there are some who really hate and are appalled by women who are childless by choice.

So my question is: why do you think they hate and are so appalled by childless by choice women?

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  1. These are just people who can't think for themselves! They conform to social expectations that women have children.... Do they think women have no purpose on this earth but to have children? Maybe, it's a very sad mindset thay have going there!

    I know many gals who never wanted children. Many women fall pregnant 'accidentally' and so end up adjusting to the idea. Other's change their mind as they get older, and others just don't have children and fill thir lives with many other great things!

    It's a small mind that would judge anybody else in this way, a very, small, mind! Ignore them.

    :-)


  2. Those are people who do not respect other people decisions, simple as that!

    People like that, have a similar view that of Adolf Hitler, and if it was up to them and they had the power to do so, probably would pose a real threat to certain people in this world!

    Basically, if it's not their way, or is parallel to their view points, they think its wrong.

    The best parents are the ones who won't allow children to be brought into a place where they are not wanted.

  3. Because some people are very traditional and set in their ways and thinks everyone should live like them, of course not all traditional people think like this just the extreme traditionalists.

  4. I get the feeling that no cares except for the women that do not want to have children. They always post on here to seek validation.

  5. Don't hate them...

    But im male and only 17 and i already feel like....how BORING,sad and gray will a life with no children be....

  6. The people that say stuff like that have no purpose in their lives EXCEPT to reproduce. They are simply too stupid to do anything else. They resent people who actually have brains and want to use them rather than just spending their lives breeding like demented rabbits.

  7. Because they don't want women to have that choice?

    Just speculation.

  8. I have no idea who that person was that said 'women who do not want children are 'not normal' and 'defective' but it sounds like she/he is an uneducated hillbilly with one brain cell between his/her whole family ........ no doubt dragged up to reproduce and 'steal' money to feed their brood from people who would rather work.

    No doubt she/he is on Welfare, will have no pension or savings to fall back on in his/her old age AND their kids will put her/him in an old people's home as soon as they can.

    I chose work instead of changing dirty nappies and cleaning up vomit because I am not maternal.

    That hillbilly really need to get educated. A working professional woman, minus domesticity, does not equate to defective/abnormal. What a tw@t.

  9. It's not that most people don't share his viewpoint but that the Gender and Women's Studies is predominantly female, we're you honestly expecting thumbs up?

    Besides I am a guy and I think pregnancy is disgusting.

    EDIT: Thumbs down........ How original.

  10. Because they don't understand why someone would want to have a different lifestyle than they do. Usually they're so uncomfortable with it themselves that they feel the need to blindly defend it, just to make it seem more appealing.

  11. Some people get really scared when others around them do non-traditional things.

    For examples see the American revolution, the American civil war, female suffrage of the 1920's, civil rights in the 1960's, the sexual revolution of the 1970's.

  12. In Northern Europe its totally normal and very common

    Only in religious countries people have been brainwashed that women are mostly here to have babies

    this is usual with conquering countries ,who need sons for cannon fodder or pioneering countries who need labor on the farms.

    women feel threatened by those who go out of their system

    like drunks who want everybody to drink ,

    and dislike or mistrust those who do not.

  13. These people cannot accept the fact that others dare to live their lives the way they want, and that includes not having children and not wanting to be the perfect housewife. I am childfree by choice and intend to stay this way and if others don't like it, they can stick their hand in a diaper full of ****.

  14. Not me, I don't hate them but some people think it a waste of good child bearing equipment I guess. My thing is what ever goes goes for them not me why should I care. I still get to run naked in the moon light.

  15. Some people get frightened by things they do not understand.  In this instance, it's inconceivable to them that there are women out there who never wish to have children.

    Edit: It's really, "you're d*mned if you do, and you're d*mned if you don't," with some people isn't it feminooties?

  16. Most people have a hard time accepting those who are different and change in general.

  17. You don't want kids DO NOT have them it's YOUR choice why would I be appalled by anyone not wanting kids?

    Live YOUR life the way you feel is best for you. do you really care what anyone else thinks?

  18. Some people focus on their own fantasy about what roles people should play.  But thankfully society evolves and nowadays people are more and more able to find roles that suit their needs and mores.  

    I find it admirable that some people - both men and women - chose not to have children as I have seen some very miserable parents who felt compelled into parenting.

  19. Evolutionarily speaking, reproduction is important. We are but temporary containers for our genes which want to live on beyond us. There is a very strong pull toward reproduction for all biological organisms. This is the biological reason people tend to value reproduction.

    Socially there are several more reasons a childless by choice woman is "appalling." All major religions, societies and economies depend on the reproductive work of women. Power is a pyramid scheme. The more babies women have, the more people you have to rule over, to control through religion and to convert into consumers, workers, cogs in the machine, etc. This is why powerful institutions (governments, economic systems, religions) value fertility and compel women to focus on reproduction.

    People who are oppressed (most of people throughout history) tend to identify with the oppressor, generally hoping to become enough like the oppressor to move up the ladder. This means buying into the dominant mindset and value systems of the ruling classes, which is why people tend to pressure women into motherhood.

    Unexamined value systems. Ignorance. Fear of change and the unknown. A biological valuing of life. Socially constructed beliefs about reproduction...

    The problem is that people vary and living authentically requires us to question the culture into which we are born. Additionally, the world is overpopulated. Sadly, at this moment in history, the best thing people can do is limit their families to two or less and then work as hard as they can to ensure that the children of tomorrow have a functional planet to live on.

    Seek out others who share your views for support and ignore people who think it's their job to pass judgment on everyone. What we hate most in others is what we are afraid to acknowledge within ourselves. Live authentically, unapologetically and be happy. Life is simply too short for anything else.

  20. Haha, I'm guessing this is about my earlier question?

    Anyway, people are creatures of habit. In society, women are generally interested in taking care of children at an early age, and therefore go on to having them. The few "oddballs" like other people and myself are seen as a weird glitch in society, and people do not like changes. I guess they just see it as something they don't understand, and therefore do not like.

  21. Some people have a feeling that for whatever reason THEY KNOW BETTER how to run OUR lives. They usually are pretty limited in their education, intelligence and experiences. That is why tradition is the absolute rule for them. They can't forgive you for being brave enough to live your life the way you want to, because they had spent their own lives cowardly following in their family's footsteps. Why would you give them a time of the day?

  22. I'm not appalled. i don't care. every person has the right to make the decision that best benefits them.

    however, there is a flip side.  

    you think that you have it bad? try being a mother. people not only critique you on every level possible, but they immediately assume it is their right to tell you how to raise your child. parents get blamed for all of society's ills. so, it is hard work to be a parent as well and we get our share of criticism. also, i get fed up with people making generalizations about parents. i do not let my kid run around in public, he is as well-behaved as you can expect a 1 year old to be. he is the center of MY universe, but not the center of everyone and i realize that.

    but i am drifting off-topic. people who are appalled by childless women just don't understand it. we all are afraid of things we don't "get". is it right? no, of course not and i don't understand those folks. what you do with your life in none of my business and i agree that some people shouldn't have kids.

    one thing that does bother me though is when very young people say they'll never do this or that. i am 24 and once said i would never have kids. whoops!

    we all grow. you never know what you'll want in ten years. i try to never say never.

    iblockidiots: i have a child "out of wedlock". what are you going to do about it? your statement is ignorant as h**l. my son is being raised by me and his father, we're just not married. my life is none of your business.

    i love that you people are giving him thumbs up. we certainly do have some ignorant folks on here, no?

  23. i have absolutely nothing at all against a woman who is childless by choice. bravo to her! bravo to her for not doing something that she simply does not have any interest in doing......just for the sake of pleasing society.

    i never want to have kids. so it would be nice to meet a woman who shares the same view as me. why does everyone have to do the whole get married/ have kids thing anyways?

  24. I think they hate these people because they need to get lives and grow up.  They believe everyone should live like them.  The inability to see the other person's point of view at an adult age is a developmental flaw.  It should be something well developed in childhood.

  25. People like that tend to automtically judge and dislike someone tht isn't like them.They think 'Why on earth wouldn't that person want to have my life??'.

    My father even said 'You aren't a real woman till you've had kids' although he was half joking..

    I do not want children, and I don't care what people think, some say it's selfish but it's more selfish to have a child that you don't want just because you feel pressured by society.

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