Why do you think there are people who are very shy?

Question

Do you go to school with or know anyone who is very shy?

Answer 1

I'm extremely shy. I have trouble in life. I mummble, I don't keep eyecontact, and I often mess up what I'm going to say, even if I think it completely through first.

I hate getting up infront of the class to give a presentation. I get red, shacky (to the point I'm about to collapse), and mummble like there is no tomorrow. Though I have gotten much better, so that the shaking is very little (but longer lasting) and I hardly get red.

I'm constantly being harrased about mumbling or talking to fast, but it's pretty much because I don't want people to hear or see me, but rather just sink back into the wall.

Most people have learned to translate my babble but they still barate me. I do everything and anything to draw attention away from me. I don't even talk to my friend's parents. Like I can't even ask them questions like, "Can you take me home?"

I don't know how I ever make friends honestly.

My bus driver (who i ended up good friends with) thought i was mute for 7 months. My teacher's asked me questions, "_____, do you get this?" Nod. That's how class is for me.

I don't even like passing by people on the streets, them just saying "Hi how are you doing?" Kills me, I'm so freaked out.

Drama is the absoulute worse... and the funnier part is i've been told i would make a good actor if i could get over the shyness. It's actually more or less that i don't know these people and i don't want them judging me.

Shyness is normally Anxiety.

If i knew everyone that ever talked to me or that i've ever had to talk to, i'm the opposite of shy, I'm chatty kathy.

Any of my friends would be like "She doesn't shut up." But anyone i don't know would be like "She can talk?"

It really is just bad BAD anxiety... go ask your doctor if he can get you something for anxiety.

Answer 2

well, for me, the reason i'm so quiet is because 1 of 2 reasons

1) people picked on me a lot in elementary/middle school. or they just completely ignored the fact i was there.:P

2) everytime i talk, i end up saying something completly irrevelent to what is going on or something of that matter.

so i just dont talk around people much...unless they are underclassmen.

the ninth graders are so much nicer.

Answer 3

Well, I am very VERY shy. It is holding me back from alot of  stuff and boys <3.

When I get to know people i usually open up a bit.

Answer 4

haha!i'm also very shy especially when i dont know that person but you'll grow eventually and start to sociallize..no worries maybe your not a very confident person but you'll grow out of the shy-ness!haha,well my sister used to be very shy but she is not anymore when she went to college~well i think your friends will also be the key to influence you..so no worries,the thing is that your still cool with your family members!:}

Answer 5

I used to be terribly shy like you describe...really it was more like social anxiety.  It was h**l for me.  I think most of it is genetic (at least for me) because I met my father recently for the first time since I was a baby and he is really shy as well.

I would probably recommend that you go see a doctor or something if your shyness is keeping you from enjoying life.  I really wish I had when I was around middle school age and got therapy or medication to help me out a bit.  I think I struggled a lot in school and was generally depressed due to my social anxiety/shyness.  

I tried my best to overcome it though...I was in debate and drama and tried to socialize as much as possible.  I also got a lot of customer service jobs that forced me to overcome some fears. And some buddhist mediations on compassion helped me. I'm now at a point where I'm not really shy at all, but I still don't have the best social skills.  But it was a very long, uphill battle to get to this point (over 10 years of diehard effort).

Best wishes to you!

Answer 6

my mom calls me shy

and everyone at my school thinks that i think.

but i dont really talk to anyone who arnt my friends in class too.

and if i see soemone durning summer or soemthing they say hey then if i wasnt talking i try to say hey and y voice is horse.

its weird.

but for lunch i am talking non stop and evryone tells me to shut up and when i a somewhere i am the loud crazy one.

idk but i just think too much about what people think

EDIT:

my science teacher was telling a story and was like yeah people like Name and Name(me and my friend) he was talking about soeone who didnt talk and i was kinda talking to my friend when he said that so my back was toward him and my jaw dropped then he walked away and was down and i told her how rude and i kept talking :)

Answer 7

Yes, I do know a few people I go to school with that are shy.

And it's probably because you think your not good enough or your going to get embarrest. Just let it happen and clear all of those thoughts from you head. Enjoy your life and make friends. Reality is a game, you just have to play it the best you can. It's okay to be shy, i am sometimes aswell, but just breathe! It's going to be fine, nothing can stop what other people think of you and you just have to accept it.

Confident people go a long way. Everyone likes a happy confident person, So just take a chance, take a risk and come out of that turtle shell. It's okay to be who you are and you should never hide that because you think other people will judge you. And just talk to other people like you talk to your family. Everyone has to talk to strangers once in a while and even friends and people around you. Just be happy and forget what they think, clear your head of negative thoughts and it will help!

Answer 8

well being shy is difficult ofcourse but if you can boost ur confidence u can work through it i am not shy at all with new people but i get extermily defencive instead and i think that that is worse

Answer 9

to be honest i think everyone is like that in their own way... you only really see unusually loud people with groups that they hang out with or with certain friends that are always with. i know that i, myself, am very shy around new people and will not even talk much unless i actually know them properly. however for your original question i cant really answer that straight out... i don't think many people can it is just how life is i guess

Answer 10

im like that at first and then when i get to know someone i am not as shy. i dont know why

Answer 11

yes there was a boy i went to elementary school with he is soooooooooo quiet! this boy one time had to do a speech in class. and i felt really bad because no one could hear him and he was trying to talk loud but he has problems projecting his voice.

anyways i used to be really shy back in my "dark years" lol a.k.a. mid-elementary school through jr. high. I dont know why...I just was intimidated by louder people or I couldn't think of anything else to say! Or I thought that what I would say would be stupid. But after I switched schools i became much more comfortable wtih myself. If someone doesn't like what I say, then f*ck em! they just as easily might say something stupider than I did. you have the right to think that what they say is dumb, but since people like you and I know the fear of rejection, I don't try to make a person feel bad for what they say. Believe it or not, there is a little shyness in everyone. You just have to become more comfortable with yourself. If you want to work on actual volume, then practice talking to someone when you're by yourself.

Answer 12

im deffinatly very shy as well.. i hate being in a large crowd.. i dont like to read outloud in class much less stand in front.. new people try to be friendly and say hi, but i just stare at them becuaseim afrait.. i dont kno whyy..

Answer 13

Yeah

I don't usually talk unless I know someone .

I used to be painfully shy. I don't really know why lol. Now, I don't talk just because I really can't stand most people.

Answer 14

people who are shy have a normal low esteem, and find interacting with other people a problem as you are having. i want you to try this, each morning when you get up go to the mirror and look into it, the person you are looking at is strong vibrant and intelligent and full of self confidence, the best thing is that person is you. carry that thought with you and believe in yourself. do that each morning and in a short time you will achieve that mind set. shyness will be a thing of the past and your new self-esteem will lift you to great hieghts. believe in your-self as you deserve.

Answer 15

Well, I consider myself a quiet person because I am not a social person.

What I mean is I don't socialize as much as I used to in Grade 7.

Right now, I am going into Grade 9th and very shy to go there because there are so many people who are very social and I am afraid that people won't talk to me because I am unsocial. But I am not and am still working on social skills. Right now in the school, I have a lack of communication and social skills because I am hearing impaired. Yes, hearing impairment can affect communication and social skills because they didn't hear alot of people to communicate. Like me, I didn't know alot about communication because I am hearing impaired so it was very hard for me to communicate until I went to a social worker and she said that I need more counselling session to learn how to communicate and have social skills.

And right now, it is kind of improving but my teachers still think that I still don't communication. But I do.

Oh well.

Answer 16

dont worry! i used to be incredibly shy, especially gonig thruogh 12-15 years. as i got older i came more into myslef adn i got more confidence! i am not as shy anymore because i ahve gained more confidence, i used to be so shy that i wouldnt put my hand up in class because i was afriad! silly i know! im 18 now and im proud to say that i am still shy, especially around hot boys. haha how old are you anyway? my mum was like you. she only ever had 2 firneds going through skool and thats all she needed!

Answer 17

I've got a friend who is very shy, it's really hard to have a proper conversation with her... and she doesn't have a lot of friends due to her shyness and awkwardness.

Answer 18

I'm shy and don't know what to say when I'm in front of people.It feels like I ran out of words, and I'm just standing there with nothing to say. Is this a disease or are we just made like this. I can't even listen cause I'm to preoccupied with if I look ok, are they judgeing me are they looking at my imperfections.I just worry. Is that why I'm shy