Why do you think there are so many....?

Question

angry, bitter married people on here? All you see are questions about cheating, etc. I mean, I have some issues in my marriage,but who doesn't--I love my husband and guess what--we're not cheating on each other--I guess we must be considered an oddity on here!

Answer 1

Well I'll join your oddly group because I'm very happily married too. I've been married for 25 years. And I agree with you. There are alot of unhappy married people on here. Some of them are just out and out liars and cheats!!! Then they wonder why they aren't happy? I believe that their just not happy with themselves. And theres alot of those people out there too. SO I'm very happy to meet someone who actually loves her husband and respects them too. I feel the same way about my husband also!!! I wish you many many years of happiness.

Answer 2

I think it is wonderful when marriages work out.  It is what I always wanted for mine.  But unfortunately it didn't work.

When I married my husband I never knew 18 years later he would become an alcoholic that would abuse me and our children.  It happens and sometimes there is no way of knowing until it is to late.  Of course I divorced him.   It not only affected me but most of all our children.

But I did meet another man, dated him for quite some time (7 years) and married him.   We just celebrated 22 years !

It can be very hard getting out of an abusive marriage.  Unless you have been in one or knew someone that was in one you just don't know.  

You are not an oddity.  You have been blessed to have found a great man and him a great woman.  I hope it last a lifetime.  

Answer 3

I guess this is their outlet.  You are not an oddity to me.  You are normal.

Answer 4

I hate mean people.  

Answer 5

u rarely find people talking about being happy. the are talking when they have problems and need to releif. also don't count on here , a lot of people just doing it for fun

Answer 6

I am very happy and love my wife and would never cheat on her!

I enjoy spending my time and energy and money to make my marriage better and NO it isn't easy BUT  I think it is easier than divorce or attempting to have an affair without anyone knowing!

Answer 7

Who's bitter..  just sharing experiences.. oh you mean those women\wife man haters...lol   yeah.. they're freaks...

Answer 8

Maybe they let life get in their way. It is not worth it to be bitter. Married almost 12 years and have survived many separations (hubby is in the military) and have never cheated. We are happily married, but still have issues, what marriage does not.  

Answer 9

they are on here because they need some place to vent and ask the questions.  sometimes its easier to ask the questions of faceless strangers then your friends.

Answer 10

I don’t think there are as many bitter and angry people as you may think. People tend to only post or ask questions when something is bothering them, when something is off in their relationship or marriage and tend to post a lot LESS about happy times in their lives. It’s what most of us do, I’m guilty of it just the same. I love my husband very much, we have our issues like everyone else, but you don’t hear me talk all that often on Yahoo about the GOOD times. And yes, we have lots of them and quite often but again, unless something is wrong or we’re having a fight, I don’t really look for insight.

With that said, this is Yahoo. Do you really take what you see THAT seriously?

Answer 11

I think it's because most people with a happy marriage aren't looking to the Answers community to get help!!! The angry and bitter ones are looking to cheat or generally they are not out on the internet connecting with people.  

Answer 12

Because those people don't have any questions to ask. What are they going to ask, "Why am I so happily in love" or "How do I get my loving husband who I adore to put down the toilet seat?". LOL I agree with you, and I too am happily married, but I think that's the problem. 8-)

Answer 13

lol..worst luck hun, not everyones personal life is so rosy. Spare a thought for them, theres nothing worse than feeling lost and worried about a problem and feeling like you have no one to share it with.

Enjoy your oddness..theres nothing wrong with that either LOL :P

Answer 14

I do not know, sweetheart, I have been married for 16 years, to the same man, and we have been through he** and high waters, and we are still together, funny, we were just talking about people in my family so unhappy and bitter in their lives and they have everything anyone could want, and my husband said that the more you have, the more you want.

Well, we are just fine and counting out blessing with what we have in our lives, we are not poor nor are we rich, but we are happy and that is all that matters.

I always tell my husband we are the "odd" ones in our family also, because it is really a shame to see my cousins put on a fake "painted" smile when I see them and ask them how they are doing, and with the same "fake" "painted" smile, they say "ok".

Pretty sad.

I guess with your marriage and mine and many others on here who actually have happy marriages, we are rare and we have learned something through the years that we have been married, and that is communicating, love and trust, understanding, and knowing that marriage is 50/50, not 99% to 1%.

If our marriage gets "boring", we always add spice and a lot of varitey to it, looking down the road, we have many years to keep making our marriage exciting!!!!! Thank God my husband has an open mind! LOL!!!!

Answer 15

I think there are several reasons. First this is a marriage and divorce section.  So, this section by addressing those contemplating or having divorced is only going to address problems (so understandably it's not going to get a happy camper).  Second, most people ask questions about problems so they are not looking for a solution to a situation or issue they are happy about.

I don't think you are an anomaly in life.  But, I think the your reasons for your posting and/or your married life is different than the situation of most of us who are here.

Answer 16

Unfortunately, there seems to be quite a lot of unhappily married people on YA, but I guess those would be the people with the most questions concerning their marriage's anyway.  Those of us that have normal marriage's without cheating and normal ups and downs usually don't have a multitude of questions.  Because we stop to consider our partners side of any issue and their feelings.  We discuss any problems we do have with each other and avoid selfish one sided choices.  I think being an oddity on YA may not be a bad thing!  

Answer 17

The thing about it is everyone isn't the same, most definitely..But some people aren't fortunate enough to have a marriage that the same person that they married turn out to be another type of person afterwards. Some people go into marriage thinking they are ready but after when temptation hits, they take on the old thinking of going from person to person. Some people don't take their marriage vows that serious either. There are many factors involved in why there are angry, bitter married people out there. You never know what they have been through.

Answer 18

You go girl!  All here know that you are the majority, we just never hear about it.  No relationship is perfect and all do require work.  

Thank you for your example of success!  

Answer 19

People typically post on forums like this when they have problems...the happy couples are off doing their thing, and spending time together.

Just like in the news media...most stories are about negative things, not positive.

You name-calling other posters isn't kewl either and does come across as holier-than-thou. Bravo you for having a happy marriage...alas, far too many don't (or didn't). Although anger and bitterness don't tend to benefit us much in life, I've seen and heard enough to understand why some people feel that way...and it can be tough to let go.

Answer 20

people forget their wedding vows. and when some one breaks their vows the other is hurt because usually that person relied on his or her spouse for their happiness. they give to much of themselves away, not saving any for themselves. when you're not happy with yourself you look in other places for happiness instead of whats right there in front of you. IDK, i am not married yet, but i will be in 10 months. i just pray to never become a bitter and angry married person.

Answer 21

Good question! It's sad when you see all those sad stories bout cheating etc. I don't why is that happening i guess it's just life. I wish everyone could get along.Anyway you are lucky to be happily married.I wish you stay like that forever. Take care ! ;D

Answer 22

This site is just a magnet for people who are angry and bitter, or just don't know where else to ask their question, maybe because they are too embarrassed to ask Friends or family so they seek answers here.

Answer 23

U adont have problems saty happy then

Answer 24

I am probably like a lot of people on here as far as the "regulars"....I only come here when I am at WORK!  I know that is terrible but I am blessed with a cush job.....at any rate, I come here for entertainment...its like a sideshow here with all the strange situations and different personalities.

I am with you- I too have a decent marriage.  My husband can be a bit controlling at times and I am not always the most pleasant but we have a strong Catholic marriage....and a good life......coming here is just a means to make the day go by quicker.

Have a good day, everyone.

Answer 25

No, I have a happy marriage as well. Sometimes this board is like a Jerry Springer episode... I think many people come here to vent.  

Answer 26

I think 60% of the yahoo questions are bogus.  

Answer 27

Hmmm..  after several years of surfing through this category, I've concluded that some people don't ever graduate out of adolescence.  Combine that lack of maturity with a lack of values, real honesty and no communication skills and well.... the results speak for themselves. I'm referring more to the people who are actually cheating, or asking if that's a good option for where they are right now.  The ones who've been cheated on, yes, it hurts, and I guess they need a place to vent.

Answer 28

I love my husband too & no-one is cheating in my house!

Answer 29

This is the net, cupcake - do you go out to tell people all's a-okay? It's the cheap version of Jerry Springer.

PS: Alyssa, for a top contributor, who must have spent quite some time around here, you do sound extremely naive, not to mention petty and spiteful.

Misty, if you crave the playground bully position, go ahead and report. Alternatively, you can grow some skin.

Answer 30

Because this site is basically for people with real problems who dont know how to handle and would need other people's views to get it solved???..... And there are too many because this site is accessible worlwide???

Answer 31

WELL THERE HERE CAUSE THERE LIVING IN THE REAL WORLD,,GLAD TO HERE YOU N YOUR HUBBY ARE MAKING IT,,PEACE