Why do you think there is a problem with parents being parents?

Question

What do you think the root cause is? Rotten childhood? Don't want to be the old fuddy duddy parent? Don't want to grow up and face responsibilities? Don't want the children to hate them? Do you think it has gotten ridiculous how some parents have no control over their children and don't seem to know how to get the control that they are entitled to? I'm not a parent but I know how to seize control. Maybe it's because I've been a babysitter and camp counselor. I'm a responsible adult. I care. I don't care about being liked at every moment. I know that I'm doing the right things by being authoritative when I need to and lenient when I need to. I'm not afraid of making mistakes. It happens. It's how you grow. Do your best. I just don't get what is happening these days. This has nothing to do with autistic children. That is entirely different.

Answer 1

i agree poeple need to pull their heads  out and start teaching their children consequences, but you cant understand what its like when a child says "i hate you" when you arent their mommy...sorry

Answer 2

I'll sleep with you in the desert and get you pregnate.

If you raise the kids in the desert, and dont get their vaccinations they wont be autistic.  

Yeah; I'll get you pregnate if that is what you are asking for.  

People usually parent their kids the way they were raised, or paranted.  

I guess your parents werent leniant with you.  

Why dont you have kids yet?

You must be young?  My parents were strict too.  I'm a bit wild..

Ok, forget about the kids for a while and think about s*x.  That is what it's all about; you know.  Tthe relationships, and the styles of parenting.

Lets do it.

Answer 3

I have worked in childcare for many years and you would not believe the things I have seen.  As a camp counsellor, I'm sure you have seen similar things.  

However, you indicated that you do not have children.  Let me tell you that things change when you do.  I am by no means saying that I let my child run my house.  But, like you said, you need to pick your battles.  For instance, the use of the word No.  I choose to limit my use of this word, which many parents would disagree with, but my belief is that if you overuse the word no, it completely loses it's effectiveness.  My daughter is 16 months and throws food on the floor at mealtimes which drive me CRAZY.  Normally I prefer to frame it in a positive way, but last night I very firmly said "NO".  She froze, stared at me, and put the food back on the table.  Mission accomplished.

From what I've seen from other parents and my friends who have children, I think that many parents choose to take the easy way out, and do whatever is easiest at the time.  Often whatever is easiest at the time becomes WAY more difficult later on.  I choose the opposite approach.  Start good habits and behavioural expectations early.  Another good example is sleeping habits.  My friend had a problem with her baby waking up all night to feed for the first 15 months of her life.  The only way the baby would go to sleep at night is to breastfeed, so she kept doing.  Now she no longer breastfeeds and has a terrible time getting her baby to sleep.  

I also think that parents want to be their child's best friend.  It's great to have a very close relatioship with your child, however your children also need to learn respect.

Answer 4

I completely agree.

Kids don't need a bff. They have plenty of them. They need something called a "PARENT" :)

Answer 5

I worked at schools and at daycares, believe me it's not the same thing. Kids have different personalities and will react differently by the same directives. Some kids are easier to discipline than others. I found it easier to deal with other kids than my own.Hahahahaha

Your own kids know that you will love them and will test your boundaries more than kids that might work with.

I agree some parents give their kids too much liberties, but all in all parents try their best and nobody tries harder than the majority of parents.And sometimes you got good days other not so much, and then parents vent out their frustrations. It's not asy to take care of another life 24/7 and for like the rest of your life.

Answer 6

hmmm..Kids act different in school and camp then at home.

Yes, some people do not disipline their kids  but I don't think it's most people..I think you just don't like your job

Answer 7

I agree that *some* parents don't discipline their kids.  However, as others have said, being a camp counselor/babysitter is NOTHING like being a parent.  Sometimes it's hard to see our own kids be upset.  We don't like to hurt their feelings by disciplining them.  They're our babies, after all.  Still, it's necessary to help them learn right from wrong.  My son is disciplined consistently and knows what's expected of him.  Still, he has an "off" day every now and then.  All kids have them, despite what some people try to claim.  It's just part of parenthood, and it's something you can't understand until you have kids of your own.

Answer 8

I agree that some parents just let their kids run out of control and need to learn how to parent. But you cannot possibly understand parenthood until you are there. Kids are always more behaved when someone else takes control, like a babysitter, but love to be on their worst behavior with you as their parent, why? Socially, thats more acceptable. Its just how it is. Should the run the house? No. But is parenting much more than you are making it out to be? Absolutely.

Answer 9

People like you who are SO opinionated about parenting before they have kids are always the ones with the out of control little hellions later. Just wait. lol

Answer 10

I think it's all part of the current culture we've created where we feel that we need to be accepting of everything and everyone and it's no longer OK to tell someone that what they are doing is wrong.  It's all part of the way we now raise our children -- there are no winners and no losers, because we feel children can't survive the pain of losing -- well, there is no discipline because we feel children can't survive the pain of being told that what they are doing is wrong.  Until there is a major cultural shift where we return to separating right from wrong and winners from losers, our children will continue to grow up learning that whatever they do is just fine.