Why do young ladies ages 16-21 think its so cute to have a baby, when they could barely support themselves?

Question

Why do young ladies ages 16-21 think its so cute to have a baby, when they could barely support themselves?

Answer 1

I completely agree with you.  I also think that the people who are saying they have it made, they're teens, living in apartments, having babies, are ridiculous.  Do they have 401 K?  Do they have college degrees, job security, making more than $10 bucks an hour?  If you are living in an apartment, I highly doubt you have an extra 800/month for daycare!  I was a nanny for a family that made 800,000/yr and you know what?  They were able to support a family, they waited until they had complete security to have a baby.

I was friends with a teen mom on myspace, as soon as she had her baby, she was drinking and partying, but claims to be the most ideal mom.  These people are living in a fantasy world, they think they are good parents, while clearly they are not.

My mom was on her own when she had me, she had a college degree and still made 20 bucks an hour, and you know what?  We didn't have much.  Yea it's possible to make things work, but acting like you have it made is completely ridiculous.

Answer 2

alot dont. its cuz there freinds have babys. and people my age (13) think its cute having babies too

Answer 3

I was 21 when I had my only child. I was married at 19 and we tried for 8 months after we got married for a child, so I think your generalizing a bit too much. It wasnt cause we thought it was cute it's b/c my husband was going to Iraq again.

About the whole supporting themselves thing. I got a job at 18 making $19.00 an hour working in collections which allowed us to save loads of money. Now we live on an Army base in a nice house and I stay at home with my son. If thats not supporting their family Im not sure what is.

Answer 4

well once your 18 your considered an adult, but what makes them young? Their age? Because I know of some 19-21 year olds that are more stable and mature than alot of 25-30 yr. olds. So.......

Answer 5

This statement is a little unfair.

I am 21 and trying for a baby with my Husband, we have been married for 5 months and together for 7 years.

We own our own house & both work full time, so can support ourselves and a baby!

Not sure what the purpose of this statement was!

Answer 6

You need to get your facts straight first, when you say barely support themselves, how do you know that EVERY SINGLE 16-21 year old can't support themselves, those ages are old enough to get jobs...im 18 and expecting my little man anytime now, I work a full-time job [on paid maternity leave at the moment] and my fiance and I have our own apartment. We support ourselves just fine, our son will have a better life then alot of children out there....even the ones born to people over "21". Don't judge young mothers by 1 or 2 young mothers you may know, we're not all the same.

Edit: I do not make over $10 an hour, I make $8.50 to be exact, but my fiance makes 11.35 an hour, our rent is only 450 a month for a two bedroom apartment and the daycare center here is only 200 a month, we live in a small town, things arent that expensive, its not ridiculous, ITS LIFE! we're trying as hard as can, thats a good thing.

Answer 7

i had my daughter when i was 17, im now 21.

i never thought it was "cute" to have a baby.

dont just presume every 16-21yr old thinks the same.

my little girl is very bright, and im very proud of her.

Answer 8

and why are you stereotyping im 18 married and ttc #1 and we have the money to support us and a baby

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Answer 9

I know a lot of young woman who had children while young. Myself included. I am 22 I have a 2 year old and expecting my second. My husband is the father of both my children and we've been together for 5 years.

I think the bigger issue is girls being irresponsible. In my case, the pill didn't work! But many of the girls I know who have children didn't TRY to get pregnant, it just happened. In these cases I admire these young woman. They are working, going to school and trying to better their lives. One couple knew they weren't ready and put the baby up for adoption. I think these outcomes are better than running out and having an abortion. It gives them a chance to learn from their poor choice (not practicing safe s*x) instead of covering it up and pretending it didn't happen only to be haunted by it later in life.

Answer 10

idk, I'm thirteen, and I can't wait to be a mother, but I'm definitely gonna wait until I'm at least 20 or so. I don't think they think it's cute, i think most of the time when that happens it's an accident. My friend's 15 year old sister had a baby recently. She gave birth on a saturday and was back to school by monday. talk about quick recovery!

Answer 11

I really don't understand it, I live in a town in the south that has the highest teen preg rate in the STATE!!!!!! I was 19 when I got married and almost 21 when my first son was born, my mother who also married and had kids young told me to please go to school and make a life for myself before I got married and had kids! I didnt care cause I thought I was grown, now I have no education to get a job worth me leaving my kids, all I would do was pay a babbysitter! I don't think that s*x ed is as good as it should be , I understand that you can only go so far with other peoples kids in telling them things, but they could do things like bring in young mothers who have no help and have to live off of the government and maybe it could help! I was lucky that the man i married was older and had a good job and was there for me and our kids!  

Answer 12

I kinda didn't have a say in it . And Me & My Fiance have 2 very Beautful gurls .One Is 5 Her Name is Maria & The Other One Is 1 Her name Is Kairi . And We Lost One When she was like a couple weeks old her name was Kelly Maire  

Answer 13

I don't think it's an age issue, but a maturity issue. I agree that 16 is WAY too young to be having children, but some people do mature faster than others and are in a stable relationship/environment that would be healthy to raise a child in. I was 21 when I had my first child, it was a planned pregnancy, I'm able to be a SAHM, my husband has a fantastic job, and she's very loved & is being raised in a great home.  

Answer 14

The fact that they can't support themselves, much less a baby, doesn't come into their minds because they are too young to fully think through situations.

Answer 15

I had my first baby when i was 20 and it wasn't because i thought it was cute! I had been married for 2 years, had my own home and could support myself very well.

Don't tarnish everyone with the same brush

Answer 16

just because there young dosn't mean they carnt support themselfs or be any less of a parent than "older" women.

Answer 17

because society has no more ambition for them and they know that the state will support them

the sooner girls learn that there is more to them then baby making machine they can learn that babies aren't the only thing in life they can do

the other ones become pregnant because they need some one to love

other ones again and just horny and didn't know how to use a condom , which frankly isn't rocket science

Answer 18

its not that they think it cute cause i am 17 and have a 2 month old its not that we think its cute its just the reaction you get when u see ur friends baby and mom and you cant think of what to say so it becomes cute...i used a condom and i still go pregnant so it was pure mistake yea u shouldnt be having s*x but who isnt going to that young that when u experment things oh and i support my son and myself all alone very well with going to high school and then goingoff to college so you cant say that all teen parents cant support theirselves

Answer 19

Sometimes, for some ppl, Its an escape (mental)...somone to love you unconditionally when you're having problems at home etc... and you dont understand that once theyre born  theyre really yours 24/7, 18 years+!!

  Of course Im married now, and smarter, and I love my kids... what seemed so logical at 16 isnt so now!!

But don't stereotype though. I was studying to be a lawyer. My husband had a job and so did I. We've made it through... and I wouldn't change it for the world!!