Why do younger women date older men..old enough to be their father..?

Question

my sister's friend who is 22 is seeing a 49 yr old man. i was shocked when i found out. she could have any guy she wanted that is our age. she is really smart and beautiful. my sister says she isnt in love with the guy or even attracted to him. i dont know why she is doing this. i know her dad has had many affairs with younger women in their 20s. i would be disgusted if my dad did that so no wonder she hates her dad and she doesnt have a good relationship with him. so with the 31 yr old age diff my theory is that she wants a father figure and she also feels secure in the relationship, because obviously the older man is not going to leave her. and when she is 40 her mum's age and an older woman herself he'll be in his 70s and still desire her and not cheat on her. i know this is none of my business. but i dont know, i just think she deserves better.

Answer 1

umm ... probably cause older men are more " established " & have lotsa money !

Answer 2

If your sister's friend is so smart, why is she seeing a man who is 27 yrs older than her? If she's not in love with him or even attracted to him, there only one reason she's seeing him - "buy me things, dude"! We all know why he's seeing her... Ego. And if she hates her dad because he dates women in their 20's, what's any different about her situation? I know I'm supposed to answer this question, but it is written in such a way that it asks more questions than offers answers.

Who has the 31 yr old age difference? You stated the man is 49 yrs old and your sister's friend is 22. 49 minus 22 = 27.

I am sorry for the criticism. You might have chosen to word your question more carefully before submitting it.

  

Answer 3

eww grosss hes almost 50

Answer 4

Usually for the money, or they feel guys their age are less mature for them.

Answer 5

Money, money, money, mo-ney... MOOONNNEEYYYY!  

Older men tend to be more stable, more mature (hopefully but not always) and they have money.  They're life is under control and they can provide.  None of this 21 yr old c**p about how "I need my space" or "I want to be a free man" or "he doesn't have a job yet" ya know?  There is comfort in reliability and that's exactly what many older men have.

But I agree with you; gross!

Answer 6

she's fallen into the trap of looking for the familiar routine, because it "feels like home", which is a relationship with a man like her father. this is subconscious usually. it's also the same general reason women who are abused in childhood tend to get involved with abusers. they somehow feel comfortable with the familiar, which is the way they were brought up. they see this as the correct way to live, because this is the programming they learned in childhood.

Answer 7

My best friends sister is 25 and is dating a 52 year old man, so there is a 27 year old difference as well.  She has always dated older men, and I think the reason is because she wants a mature man.  It is not for the money in her reason because he is just as poor as she is.  

Answer 8

For money

Answer 9

he probably has a lot of money...

Answer 10

Maybe she doesn't want to be left, or she wants money. It could be because she was desperate, or just because she was lonely?  

Answer 11

It's due to the supposed experience that older guys have, as opposed to the younger ones.

It's plainly obvious why an older man would date a younger woman.

I see this as nothing more than sheer idiocy, in the face of being unwilling to put some real work into a relationship.