Why does 2 and half year old son show different behavior at school than at home?

Question

Hello, Im hoping to get some advice on this one.My son has been going to daycare for over a year now and has been fine, but recently in the past few months, we have been getting reports on his behavior and that hes been very outspoken and rebellious saying things like "shut up" and "stop it" when hes directed to do things and has been having a hard time with other kids. Even more one said he said "Shut up B-word" to her. However on the flip side, hes very well behaved at home, not perfect but nothing of that sort. He is very good with other kids and people even told us that they dont understand what we've been hearing about him and hes very normal. One teacher suggested maybe since hes an only child that might be it, but hes very loving and nice to other kids we are around. I remember in the beginning he had longer hair and other kids were mean to him but im not sure. We dont cuss, so thats another thing...Hes said little things before, but we always had it under control..thoughts?

Answer 1

2 year olds say shut up b****? Oh my goodness am I in for a rude awakening when I have kids....

Answer 2

maybe hes trying to show off infront of the other kids

Answer 3

Well I'm really not an expert on this sort of thing but I think you baby boy has some sort of depression when he gets to school and has to hang out with other children and also you as the mother of that child should go to the day care and talk with the teachers to tell them that when the other kids mess with your boy she should set some kind of punishment to the kids that are bothering him.

HOPE IT WORKS

Good Luck

Answer 4

You need to have a nice firm talk with him, and explain to him that you expect him to behave at school the same as he does at home. See if there is a reason for his behaivor at school. I think he may just think because he is not at home, he does not have to behave. My daughter did this, and I had a talk with her. She found out quick that if she misbehaved at school, then she was punished the same as she was at home. Just have a talk with him first though, and then take matters from there

Answer 5

Children usually say and do, as they hear and see. Maybe the daycare should be check. I know for a fact that there are bad day cares. Good luck.

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Answer 6

I think he may be picking up some things from other kids at school. When he gets home he no longer has the influence of the other children. If I were you, I would try to instill in him the importance of behaving correctly when other kids may not be. This is a hard concept for a two year old, but it is all part of the socialization process. It will take some time but he will get better.

Answer 7

My daughter started to do this when she was being bullied....she had had enough I guess, but if it is unprovoked then maybe (??)  he is not getting enough structured support, or maybe he is having self esteem issues, or maybe a quote unquote "Mental problem" - not saying that meanly or badly, like sometimes some childhood problems can cause acting out??  Maybe talk to his doctor? I'm obviously not an expert, but good luck!

Answer 8

He probably also knows that at school he can get away with it. You have to understand kids are much more smarter then we seem to think.

Answer 9

It may be that environment. If he is not getting that behavior from home, I would check out all of the places he has opportunity to pick up choice language and behaviors.