Why does 9yr old son has "phone issues" with dad ?

Question

I have been divorced 7 yrs but the last 2 yrs my son has been doing wierd things on the phone with just me. Almost every day hes not with me he will call me. Sometimes its to tell me something or ask to come over but most of the time he will just say "hi dad" and i'm expected to carry conversation. When I think hes done and tell him i'm going to go he will say "WAIT dad don't go" and make up something just to keep me on the phone. This can go on for 1hr and sometimes the only way i can get him off is to promise to call him back in a few hrs. He ONLY does this with me, when I have him over he has no intrest in calling his mom or even friends.His mom is a good mom so there is no problems with that.

Answer 1

one of 2 things is going on

either, he misses you so much that he just wants to feel you are there and so hearing your voice is his way of connecting with you

or

he has something that he wants to say, but cannot find the words, and stalls you going in the hope it might become easier

since he does this with no one else, ie his mom, i can only conclude this is what it is, and no matter which one it is, i would be getting to the bottom of this, it sounds like he misses you

instead of calls that last an hour, can you not make more frequent shorter calls, that way he knows you are never far away?

just crossed my mind as i pressed submit, has his mom met soemone new? this would explain him wanting to touch base with you more often and not want you to go off the phone? a new man around would definately explain his behaviour

Answer 2

You're his dad. He misses you.