I have been struggling for some time about changes I have seen in my husband SINCE we've been married. We have been married just over a year (and dated 1 1/2 years before that) And I swear it feels like "Who died and took over my husband's body?" He was a completely different person when we dated. Had he been the person he is today, I can't say I would have even dated him. Some people have told me that when you're married, the real person comes out... you don't have to pursue each other any more. He used to be thoughtful, emotional, romantic, tender, sensitive, and open-minded. Then the ring went on the finger. Now he's selfish, insensitive (and tells me I am too sensitive - now if I start crying, he says, " NOW what are you crying about?", unromantic (he has not done ONE romantic gesture of thoughtfulness since we have been married - says a paycheck should be enough. He used to love my dog, now he hates my dog. He used to please me orally, but that stopped after the honeymoon, however he still expects it from me. He is bull-headed and stubborn. I feel tricked. Is this what a marriage is supposed to be? It feels more like a business agreement. Is this a case of bait and switch? Am I alone in this? I feel like I'm going crazy! He won't go to a counselor because he thinks that I'M the one that's making all this up. The only reason he would go is so he "could watch when they tell me it's all MY fault". Would this have anything to do with a ten year age difference, or the fact that he was married before for 15 years?
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