Why does everything I love desert me?

Question

Why does everything I love desert me?

Answer 1

Bcause change is a part of life.  So you need to start changin with it, if you don't want to be all alone.

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Answer 2

Because everything that YOU love, loves ME more!

I have them all right here...maw hah hah. And I am not even nice to them either. I don't need to be, they love me SO much!

Ah, sorry to tell you but you HAVE to know the truth.

Answer 3

Thats life hun, chin up

Answer 4

you too?!!

everything and everyone that I love seems to leave me....

Answer 5

Go get help, or stop being an a*****e one!

Answer 6

Maybe you should just love desert b/c chocolate cake never deserts me !

Answer 7

What is deserting you?? There are two books  that may be of great help to you..One is "Boundaries" by Dr Henry Cloud it teaches you about yourself as well as other "TOXIC" people that can come into your life that will take everything you have to give and offer including your time..and give   nothing and leave you high and dry..

Another super book is "Love Smart" by Dr Phil..it helps you learn how to stay away from "Unavailable" detached  people who just want to use you...

Hope these suggestions can be of help..

Also you can go to any library to find these books if you're on a fixed income...Or any bookstore locally will either have them or be able to order them for you.

    .Also Amazon.com has the books you can order from the convenience of your home...

Good luck and enjoy learning about YOU 8-)

Answer 8

maybe because your a bit depressed

Answer 9

u r doin somethin wrong

Answer 10

Well, it's seemingly obvious as per some of the glib responses here. But appearances can be deceiving -- not that that would deter the one-liner buffs or New-Agers.  Strange that your question would be under "Community Service" -- perhaps one problem you have is expressing your needs and desires to others?  

I've had this experience, and it does seem at times that one can have ANYTHING, as long as you don't really want it.  Often, "needy" people (like myself, and oh yes, Sally Field and Barbara Streisand and practically every person who's ever given an Oscar-winning speech and thanked their partner) -- real people have needs, and especially the support of a real partner.

So popular these days to pretend autonomy and independence, isn't it?  Such a sham, too -- but what can one expect from a society so bereft of direction that it turns to patently phony guys like  Dr. Phil and Wayne Dyer?

In my own experience iI think it's key to admit that what is happening to you over and over again is real, not your imagination.  While it's true that you may well be contributing to what is going on, you may not be entirely responsible as the so-called gurus and their acolytes would tell you.  Often, there's a question of circumstances, or even territory -- other factors of which you may be unaware that make your task very difficult if -- or, these days, BECAUSE it is a good and noble one.  There simply are people (often using titles such as "PC") who simply just like to destroy others' relationships and success, because that is all the pleasure they have in life.  "Oooh: Paranoid!", says the peanut gallery.  Up yours -- it's a fact of life, like snakes.

For you, I would say the best plan is to set achievable goals and give yourself credit for reaching them, sharing the happiness you feel with the ones you love as you go along.  This will reassure your partner, who undoubtedly already feels your anxiety to some extent, and may feel cautious about you.   No one is perfect -- nor do many really want to be with someone who pretends to be as our "modern" approach would have it.  At the same time, people don't like to be grabbed at like a life-preserver.  The thing is to let both sides of you be known in a gradual way -- be sure to keep your own assets in mind as well as your fears.  Look at good comedies like "Notting Hill", for instance.  We sympathize with both love-torn characters because we have all been through the hopes and doubts (and even catatrophic mistakes).

Myself, I have often tried to be "too understanding", and come across as being somewhat unreal to those I love romantically -- and as a phony to those who like to spread discord and gossip.  Keep it calm -- but look the person in the eye you really care about and tell them how you feel: it's the best way.  Remember too, that if we do "Create Our Own Reality" -- it's out BELIEFS that are manifested, not our wishes.  Fear of failure plants the subconscious seed of failure both in your own life and in the life of your relationship.  So weed your garden of such thoughts, instead of pretending they don't exist.  Have fun -- that's the goal, and good luck!

Answer 11

What a specific question. Maybe you're looking at things wrong, and maybe you should think of the positive instead of the negative.

Answer 12

If you look anything like your avitar...  you have blue hair.

It's usually reserved for old ladies.

Answer 13

Maybe you're deserting everything that loves you?

Answer 14

Have you seen your avatar!!!

Just kidding!

ok, I dont know, but not everything you love has deserted you.

No matter what, God's there.

(here come the thumbs down for talking about God.)

Answer 15

Your negativity pushes them away

Answer 16

well maybe your mean to them and you cant pleasure them

Answer 17

You need to change your thinking pattern, because negative people don't attract positive people. I am not trying to be mean, but it is true. I don't like to visit people who are constantly whining or complaining about other people, because I don't want to be dragged down. Therefor, I rather hang out with a good crowd and have a good time.

Answer 18

Because life doesn't always go our way at times.

Answer 19

Try Listerine.