Why is it so hard for him to give me ANY recognition for anything, or to compliment me about anything?
I'm 46 & the guy I'm living with is 48. He is very intelligent, interesting, funny and charming. He's also hard-headed, stubborn, close minded and VERY resistant to any changes. Biggest trouble is, he thinks his is the only opinion that's correct or that even matters at all. He acts like it'll make him less of a man or something equally stupid if I know anything he doesn't, or have more experience in something, have done a great job at something, etc. He has to treat me like I'm an idiot & shoot me down regardless how it makes me feel. Even if I'm totally right! And God forbid should I disagree with his opinion! He will argue against anything I say. No matter if I'm just expressing my opinion, a personal preference, or even things I know to be totally factual. It seems like its more important to him to feel superior at all times about everything. And he never, ever backs down! When someone else says something he's fought against me about, he always at least values their opinion. That common courtesy doesn't extend to me, ever. Can you even imagine how it feels when after shooting me down, he AGREES with someone else for the same opinion/statement?! Even when/if he realizes he was wrong, he will never admit it or apologize for how he made me feel.
As long as I defer to him, we get along great.
Why is being right more important than my feelings? How can I live like this for the rest of my life?
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