Why does he do this? Please help!!!?

Question

This guy friend of mine claims he's trying to help me not take things personally by making jokes about me and cutting me up. But it starts to get annoying to me after a while. And he'd joke and cut me up before and never mentioned anything about trying to help me get over anything.

How do you know not when to take something personally especially when it's said directly about you?

I don't always take everything personally, sometimes I just find it annoying and of course I get defensive and say something right back to them which kind of drains the energy out of me.

Answer 1

I think the best way is to just ignore it if it gets annoying. That's how you get to people like that. If he sees that he's not annoying you anymore, he'll stop doing it.

If he says he's doing it to help you, say "Thanks for it, but it's getting really annoying, please stop." It will hopefully work.

Or, if all else fails, just laugh it off when he does it. It's good to laugh at yourself.  

Answer 2

Based on what you state, this so call friend of yours is using a technique which not only alienates you, but hurts you as well.  It seems like he/she is getting a kick at your expense.  Why does he do it?  It could be the person is jealous of you, it could be the person is paying you back for something you did or...it could be the person is an uneducated, callous and insensitive jerk who does not act like a friend.  Get this person out of your life and smell the sweet air of your other friends.  

Answer 3

He likes to bug you so he rationalizes it by insisting he's doing you a favor.

Thing is, he's outsmarting you. You need to outsmart him right back.

And in this way, he IS doing you a favor, by helping you to develop quick wits, which well may be the most important part of your personality.