Why does he need space..?

Question

i have mood problems and call my bf alot.i love him.but he has started to run. he took a 2month break b4/partied hard and got evertything out of his system.then he came back to me,a nd now wants to break again.i thought he was cheating!! but he still lives with parents and answers to me every night.then his cell was off at lunshes or when he was in the pub...i spied on hima nd he was with male colleagues. is that why he takes the break?? drinking time? should i call him or not?

Answer 1

He needs space WITHOUT YOU IN IT!  You would drive me crazy!  You sound needy and clingy.  Get a life of your own.

Answer 2

move on.  Why would you want to be with a guy that "needs a break"?  Real relationships don't work like that.  There is obviously a reason why this guy can't commit, whether he enjoys being single or has someone else on the side.  I know it hurts to let someone go when you like them, but in reality, its the smart thing to do to make sure you don't get hurt.  

Answer 3

maybe he's clusterphobic.  

Answer 4

have mood problems and call my bf alot    lol just answered your own question. Insecurity will run anyone off

Answer 5

leave the poor boy alone!  Everyone needs some time to chill.

Answer 6

He is young and not ready for the responsibilities of a relationship, you should move on. Sorry.

Answer 7

DO NOT call him. You are smothering him and you are being to dependent on him. A man wants a self assured woman and not feel like he has to guide you through life.

If you keep doing what you are doing now you will lose him.

Answer 8

how many times are you going to ask this question?  couldn't you just refer to the answers you got the first thousand times??

Answer 9

For crying out loud, LEAVE the poor guy alone!! If you were a male, you would be in jail for stalking!!

Answer 10

Didn't have to read your post to answeer your question.

Simple, because he is confuse and he needs to think things over.

Don't call, don't text, nothing ! Give him his space for now. If he wants to be with you, he'll come back on his own.

Understand ?

Answer 11

You sound like an 'in your face' type of girl friend. If he says he needs space it's as simple as that, give him space and trust he's not cheating on you

Answer 12

yeah that is why he needs a break is to hand out wit his friends no u shouldn't call him he is probably giving you time to solve your mood problem  

Answer 13

It doesn't sound like he "got everything out of his system."  He is not ready for you, but I don't think you're ready for him either.

Relationships should be about trust, not about spying on him when he's with his friends.  Let him go, get some counseling and move on.

Good Luck!

Answer 14

you must be feeling a little foolish........

time for you to go out with other guys.......

2 months ????????????????????

no female companion?  NO s*x ??   RIGHT ??  BS.

Answer 15

Sounds like he hasn't gotten everything out of his system yet.

Answer 16

I'd be running away from you too!  Get some help with your mood problems or else you are going to loose him for good and all the other men that come into your life.

Answer 17

ummm..you sound verrrrryyy needy and insecure, i think ur overwhelming your guy.  Plus the whole spying on him, wtf, thats creepy.  Let him have his space and you need to have ur own also.  He doesnt have to be with u 24-7.  If you keep on, he's never gonna come back.

Answer 18

no dont call him. he takes breaks because you are so intense and demanding and he needs time to himself.

Answer 19

Just want to say sorry and good luck.

Answer 20

You're suffocating him. Work on your problems instead of calling him all the time. Otherwise, the day is close when he won't come back.

Answer 21

No! Don't call him.

Leave him alone.

You are driving him crazy!

Answer 22

maybe thats why he needs space r u calling him alot? maybe thats why  

Answer 23

You have issues. Why are you so insecure? Has he given you reason to be? Or do you just not trust him? If you smoother him he will eventually get enough of it and not want to be with you I'm afraid. Try to get some help to sort out why you feel compelled to know his every move. Think about it, he's not happy with that type of behavior. Best wishes to you in figuring it out.

Answer 24

i know ur very worried but this is starting to become a bit obsessive. it seems he takes breaks because u suffocate him. calling him day and night every single day and even spying on him..it would make sense. i think he just wants to have some time with his friends too i mean he didnt break up with u after the break right? so if u really want to know why he wants to break then dont ask us and ask HIM instead.

Answer 25

I can tell you one thing.. the more you behave this way, the more space he's going to want.

Guys just want space sometimes.. I dont care how much he loves his wife or gf or whatever, we will always want time to ourselves or with our friends.. and if you get all insecure about it (like spying) and calling him all the time, he's just going to want more space.  Give him a break, let him drink with his buddies.. dont call him repeatedly while he's out.  At least then he wont dread coming home to you or talking to you later.

Answer 26

The majority of men (even more so when they are younger) need some time a lone. I have been with my fiance for 5 years, and he takes at least one night a week to do something with the boys. Sometimes they play golf, sometimes they to to a bar, sometimes they go bowling.

This used to be hard on me because he has a history of cheating, but through a lot of work on my part and his part, I have come to understand that men just simply need there "guy time".

Don't call him, show trust in him.  

Answer 27

He "answers to you" ?  He is only your boyfriend?  Sounds like you are stalking him and possibly obsessed.  Men do not like this in a girl.  I wouldn't even do any of that to my husband.  My husband would never "answer to me".  He needs space from you because you are so "in his face" all of the time.  They can't take it, nor should they.  He's not your puppy.  You need to figure out how to stop this behavior or you will be a sad, lonely women.        

Answer 28

Everyone needs space. It's a sign of health to freely give it to someone - the opposite of your self-described "mood problems," calling all the time and spying on him. Have you heard that proverb about letting a butterfly go free?

To answer your last question: Don't call. Take care of your own life and see who is left without a guy as your mirror.  

Answer 29

Sounds like he may have switched sides (turned g*y). If he prefers the company of guys over that of a young nubile hottie, I'd say the answer is clear.

If he continues to act this way, contact me. I have just the cure that is sure to scratch your itch, if you know what I mean. ;-)

Before long you will want to take a break from me, if only to let your loins cool down and get back some of your vaginal muscle tone.

Answer 30

You need to talk to him.  Ask him why he wants to break it off...

maybe he knows you spied on him.

No one wants someone who is too clingy.

you need to be independent and confident with who you are.. and if he wants you.. good... if not move on.   Its hard, but you only live once and you should not waste time beating around the bush with someone who might not even care...

Answer 31

ok! he took a break once before and he came back to you now he wants another break! this boy doesn't really know what he wants! step away from him and look for somebody that know what he wants and also that respect you enough to be with you and tell you the true not to be taking numerous breaks! good luck and take care!

xoxo

~2dramtic~