Why does he think I'm racist? ?

Question

So I have this friend he is a cool person to talk and when we hang out we have fun. Here is the problem I'm a white girl who is attracted to spanish men so most the guys I date are spanish. I'm not physically attracted to black men it has nothing to do with race it has to do with skin color I'm not attracted to dark dominican guys either. Well he has had a thing for me from the moment we met, I gave him my number so we could talk and be friends since he is cool to hang out with. Now I have a boyfriend and everything is great and he is Puerto Rican. Well now my friend is saying I'm racist and that I should have given him a chance and just off the wall stuff. I have never given him any reason to think I'm racist. Majority of my g/f date black guys I have no problem with it, it's just not for me. So what do I say to him I know it's probably jealousy but it hurts my feelings that he is trying to pull the racist card just because I'm not attracted to him. BTW even if he was spanish I wouldn't be attracted to him.

Answer 1

i get wat u are saying but i think u should give black guys a chance. if hes a nice person then go for it.if he really likes u u must of hurt him bad but u should tell him u want to be friends if theres nothing more that can happen between u to. hope i helped

Answer 2

Tell him that you don't have to have s*x with a person of every race to accept them and their culture.  And you can only date one man at a time: does this make you racist because you don't have a boyfriend of every race?  Of course not.

Answer 3

I'm attracted to Japanese girls, and not any other except Japanese girls...I just like Japanese girls...

Answer 4

Lol don't listen to duncan. This is not racism, it's preference. For instance- i'm a black dude. I'm attracted(physically) to tan white girls, spanish girls, light skinned black girls, mixed girls, some asian girls. It's not that I think dark/ extra light girls are ugly, it's just that (physically) i prefer those in between colors. Definitely NOT rascist.

Anyway, shortie, don't sweat it. your friend is a little jealous. I think the best way to handle this is to let things cool off, explain to him when he is chill that it's not rascism, it's just your preference for guys. Then, ask him if he would go out with someone that's really really white, or someone that he doesn't like b/c of some physical characteristic. He should get it by then. If not, let things cool down some more, and don't worry too much.

hope it works out OK ^_^

Answer 5

So you treat people differently because they come from a different race.

In my book, that IS racist.

Answer 6

I think you are racist no offense

Answer 7

Another black male pulling the racist card out when he doesn't get what he wants.

Answer 8

Ignore him, its just a matter of taste...n why shud u have to justify yourself to anyone??  who r who u r, u like wat u like and u dont like what u dont like. Im asian and dont date asian or black guys, just dont fancy em, pure n simple.  if we all liked the same things then the world wud be a very boring place.  stop explaining urself...u dont need to say anything to him, if he was a real friend he would respect ur likes and dislikes and accept u just the way u r. and if u were racist, ie u didnt like black people then u wudnt be friends with him wud u...he's just bein an idiot and cannot accept that u do not like him, wat does he hope to achieve by sayin this to u anyway...does he think u'll suddenly change ur mind and become attracted to him???

Answer 9

nothing to do with race it has to do with skin color" those were ur exact words normally a racist doesnt like a person because of their skin color! And isnt tht what u just said so yea i think ur being a tad racist but he shouldnt be calling you out just because u dont like him!!!! And besides you have a boyfriend tell ur friend ur happy just being friends with him for the time being

Answer 10

You do come off as a bit Racist. But he should understand that he's not your type. But really did you even give him a chance. i bet his personality is better than the guy your dating now.

Well not really but you never know till you give him a chance.

Answer 11

tell him just as men prefer blondes,brunettes,redheads,black hair w

blue eyes,hazel eyes,almond shaped eyes,or any combination of

physical attributes girls have every right to do the same:it's actually]

biology for women to pick someone subconsciously they want to mate

w call his race card w this sick of double standard card!

Answer 12

But you know this guy is just being mean because he's hurt and jealous. He probably feels like you're missing out on something good. If you value his friendship, then you need to sit down and talk to him about it. Tell him although you think he's a great guy to be friends with, you just don't have that click with him. If he's a good guy, he'll get over it, but know those feelings probably won't go away and he might keep pursuing you.

While I think it's a little narrow minded to tell yourself you only like Hispanic guys, to each their own. When you tell yourself that's all you're interested in, that's the only race you'll see beauty in and you might miss out on a really amazing guy-white black or purple.

Good luck.

Answer 13

hahaha yeah, he's upset you dont like him, so he is just making up excuses.  he'll get over it.

BTW...Im white and attracted to Puerto Rican men also