Why does it bug me that my sister is never at home and always is doing something fun and productive?

Question

It bugs the h**l outta me, whenever she never at home the whole day doing things that are obviously productive and self awarding, and often involves pleasure. It causes me to fill up my time by finding a job, working out or whatever it may be, just to keep up with her style so that I don't feel that bad about myself. When in reality, I would never do any of those things. I rather just sit at home and watch tv, go on the computer, I rarely call people to hang out. If I were ever away from home as much as she is, I would want to come back home. While it doesn't even bother her in the sightest bit to be gone so long, participating in one event after another. To state, she is actually an overachiever in school partially and off the court also. It coming to the point where Im starting to hate her. She's not even a real person, cause the side of her she shows me as a sister, is probably not what she shows everybody and all her friends and people she comes into contact with on a daily basis. I just wish I was a little more outgoing, even don't it doesn't necessarily appeal to me. what is my problem?

Answer 1

Jealousy?  In any event, it is no skin off your nose, so you have no legitimate complaint.

Answer 2

b\c you need to get out more im neva reli at home either cuz i hate being in da house all day long you should find stuff you reli like to do and go do it .... dont be a couch potatoe

Answer 3

Keep up, you sound to have more sense than your sister.

Answer 4

Your sister is older than you? Okay so she's the alpha in your parents' litter of puppies. You are the beta. Yes, birth order does matter.

It kind of sounds like you have some sort of inferiority complex going on... recognize it for what it is. Don't beat yourself up over it.

Each person has their own comfort level... some are socially outgoing and others are at their best in more intimate situations. Some are better at solving problems, some are better at other approaches.