Why does it hurt to have s*x when pregnant!?

Question

Well, I'm only 5 weeks pregnant, and I can understand if I were say, 36 weeks pregnant, that it might be a bit painful. But everything I've read from everyone I've asked has said it's ok to have s*x during pregnancy. Safe, in fact.

Well, my husband and I have only had s*x twice since finding out we were expecting a week ago. Last night's episode actually left me curled up in the fetal position afterwards, clutching my abdomen and tears streaming down my face as I struggled to breathe.

This didn't strike me as normal, so I called his mother, who is a nurse. She said it's perfectly normal to have pain during s*x when you're pregnant. There was, and still is, no bleeding, the pain is now gone, but MY GOD, that was sooo painful! I've experienced something similar before, but I wasn't pregnant at the time and it was with a different partner who was, shall we say, overly-well-endowed.

Have any of you ever experienced anything like this? Do you know why it sometimes hurts to have s*x when you're pregnant? I'd like to avoid this sort of thing again, and as it stands at the moment, I'm almost terrified to have s*x again.

Answer 1

I was the same way as you.

It still does hurt for me at 27 weeks but not nearly as bad, now it is just more uncomfortable.

I felt so bad for my husband it was so painful for me and he felt so bad for hurting me to the point where I was crying. It was hard to get past. Good Luck with everything

Answer 2

I was the same way when i got to 14 weeks I was back to normal well no it was more enjoyable(honeymoon trimester) If ya'll can hold out as much as possible till around your 2nd trimester and try again. best of luck to you.

Answer 3

It could be the position even at 8 weeks I would have some tenderness in certain positions.

Are you on the dry side?  That can really affect it.  

Does the pain happen just after s*x or during it.  s***n can make the uterus contract causing pain.  

My suggestion is switch it up with positions, use a condom, and lube up.

Answer 4

I think that many women experience this. I also think that for most women it's a sort of self-fulfilled prophecy. You worry about hurting the baby, you've seen movies (or talked to friends) and heard that woman claiming s*x hurts while pregnant - so it does. I've been there, but through 3 pregs I've realized that it doesn't acually hurt that early. Don't worry, it'll pass. Good luck and congrats with your pregnancy.

Answer 5

I've had two different kinds of pain during s*x in pregnancy- one was in the early days when an o****m caused unbelievably painful cramping; the other was from about 17 weeks on when everything down there got extra tight and dry and it was uncomfortable during s*x.

The pain you feel after o****m (which for me was so bad it left me absolutely breathless and unable to walk for about 5 minutes until it settled down) is your uterus contracting. This happens normally with o****m, but because there's nothing in your uterus, you don't feel it. Because you're pregnant, those parts are now much more sensitive, and your uterus is squeezing around something. Apparently it's completely normal. I know how you feel, because from about 5 weeks of pregnancy I started having dreams where I would wake up mid-o****m, in agony. It put me off so much that I didn't have actual s*x with my husband from conception to 12 weeks.

At 12 weeks, though, the same pain did not happen- also I got past my mental block by remembering that it might hurt, but it's good practice, exercising your uterus for labour. LOL.

I've only had s*x *three* times in the last 29 weeks. The last two times we've tried (17 and 24 weeks) it has been so tight and painful that I can't stand it for very long. Even when we find a comfortable position I can't seem to get to o****m. My husband is worried that he's hurting me and I've lost interest completely. It sucks, but it doesn't last forever.

Hopefully things are easier for you than we've had it- use lots of lubricant, and don't worry- the pain after o****m seems to stop happening to the same extent after the first trimester.

Answer 6

when I was 6 weeks it hurt for me too. but you have to remember that everything is changing in your body. that could be why. mine was so painful that we didn't have s*x till I was 11 weeks. and it was much better. but yes It was very painful for me as well. I was also told by my midwife that when you're pregnant there is a lot more blood in that region so it is in a sense swollen.  

Answer 7

its hurt for me to have s*x since ive been pregnant. and this may sound crappy but its only going to get worse as the pregnancy goes on. at least for me it has. im 38 weeks and i would have to say ive only had s*x maybe 20-30 times. im sorry i know its tmi. ask your doctor. best of luck to you.

Answer 8

Was it rough s*x? Hope not. You can do other things that don't involve penetration. Good Luck!!

Answer 9

I think all of the hormone changes in your body could be making you dry down "there", so that's why it hurt.

Answer 10

The cervix closes immediately after conception.  That's the pain you feel.  It's completely normal.  I would suggest not having s*x if it's that bad, for your sake I mean.

Answer 11

yes it can get uncomfortable so you need to find other postions that are not painful. put a pillow under your butt or lay on the pillow with you butt up that always helped me. your insides are different right now so it will be different. congrats