Why does it seem that all guys want from me is a sexual relationship?

Question

Ive been seeing someone for a little over a yr

He makes it very clear he isnt ready for a girlfriend

So i let him call me

When I call him he blows me off then later explains how theres all this stuff going on

Now Im not naive...I understand that he wants to have his cake and eat it too

The question I have is why is that all theyre interested in?

I dont nag, harrass,

Im attractive

Im very outgoing

I like sports, to dance, drink, chill, cook, socialize,

AND dammit I love s*x

So why dont they like me?

d**n I know Im not perfect but im NOT one of those crazy obsessive stalker questioning demanding upity stuck up girls

yet theyre the ones with the boyfriends

the ones that need help changing a d**n light bulb

that lie to their guy say theyre going to sleep and turn around and hit the club

Am i just too honest?

Should I also say that Im not doing anything except for waiting for him to come over?

Or when i first meet them should i also lie and say its been months since ive had s*x?

wtf?!!

Oh and if u dont have costructive advise

Please dont waste your time insulting me

I have a life just asking a question back off!

and yes although this question makes me sound like i depend on a man

trust me i have family friends my own place my own car and best of all i have myself

Answer 1

All guys want from you is a sexual relationship because you are willing to give it to them (s*x sans relationship).  Hence, you were with this guy for so long, having s*x, but technically aren't his "girlfriend." Hm.  Nice.

Essentially you are asking for the kind of guy you are attracting.  What is hard to understand about that?  

How about holding off on the s*x, despite your professed love for it, and getting to know someone before getting physical.  That would solve a lot of your problems.  You would get to know him, and he you, before you bust a move.  Then, he might like you for more than just your body.  

Answer 2

First of all, don't listen to the stupid advice. Not all men are like that, maybe about 90%,lol just kidding. Anyway, it depends on how you carry yourself. I would suggest letting go of that a*****e if he doesn't treat you with respect and just blows you off. If he only wants you for s*x then he's a pig. Just like that guy who left the rude answer.

Don't LET HIM TREAT YOU LIKE THAT! Be true to yourself and always carry yourself and act in a manner that shows you demand respect. There is little chance you will find Mr. Right right away, but as long as you demand respect a good guy will respect you in return.

Don't lie. You know what you want and it hurts a possible relationship, you have nothing to be ashamed of. If you only want s*x and not a relationship all I will say on that is be safe. I'm not sure I really understood the question so I'm sorry if this wasn't what you were looking for, but hopefully I Helped nonetheless. I could give more help if you clarified a bit more.

Answer 3

Sweetheart you are allowing them to use you that way.  They do it because they know they can.  It may sound old fashioned, but men like to do the chasing. You need to turn them down once in a while.  Don't make yourself so available to them.  They call you at a moment's notice for a booty call because they know you'll say yes.  Don't let them use you that way.  You're worth more than that. and as soon as you realize it you'll stop allowing men to treat you like a "thing" and make them treat you like the special woman you are. Maybe you should try having other plans the next time Mr. "I'm not ready for commitment" comes calling. Even if you don't really have any you should tell him you do and then maybe you should find something fun to do without him. You don't have to be helpless, just a little mysterious. Just enough to make him think about what a good woman you really are. Try it, it works.

Answer 4

idk, maybe you can go on dates..like dinner & movie or sumthing.. a type of place where u can actually sit down and get to know each other..or maybe u can result in an older guy..im 15 && i knw i may not have actual experience but i always hear ppl say older guys, well most of them are done playin childish games

Answer 5

As Dr Phil says - "You teach people how to treat you." If you want a relationship make it clear that that is what you want. You have been seeing each other for over a year and you're not his girlfriend? You need to ask him where you stand with him. If he doesn't want what you want you may want to consider whether you want to stay in the relationship. There are plenty more fish in the sea but while he takes this place in your life it leaves no room for Mr Right to be there.

Answer 6

HONEY M0ST MEN ARE LIKE THIS AND THE G00D 0NES ARE SINGLE=(

Answer 7

Not all men are like that - although many are.  Your guy is at least being honest with you.  Keep looking.  As men get older, they usually are more ready to settle down.  

Don't lie to someone you like.  It may come back to bite you in the butt. It's better to just not discuss your previous love life.  

Answer 8

Stop giving guys the cake before you get the wedding ring!  You are basically getting what you negotiate in these s*x-driven relationships.  They will view you as a s*x-object instead of unique person.  Do a little soul searching and ask what it is that you really want - a one-night stand or a soul-partner, lover and friend for life that will always be there for you, the man you want as your husband and the father of your children?  Decide, then negotiate accordingly.  Ciao!  

Answer 9

because you are a foolish lady

Answer 10

Maybe it's not you.  Seems like you have your life in order.  Try looking at what you're attracted to though.  There are plenty of guys around that aren't all the same.  If you seem to have problems attaining what you want, what is it you want?  You may find that believe it or not, you may be attracted to those that aren't "attainable".  A lot of people are like that.  They are more attracted to those that are in a relationship already, or in your case, those that swear they don't want a relationship.  Why?  It's more of a challenge, therefor the reward is sweeter.  The problem is just that though, they are harder to get.  Hope it helps.