Why does it sound scary to be married to an india national ?

Question

im a filipina and if marrying an indian is going to make me a housemaid instead of a housewife, where does love comes in? isnt it a give and take relationship in marriage? will there be racial discrimination if i work in there offices? he allows me to work so i wont be bored. he says he is an intl business manager in MNC does this job makes him a good earner? is it a stable job? im so confused and scared? pls advice and tnx

Answer 1

why don't you ask this question to your own family who know may be about the guy? if he is promising to take care of you, obviously he is confident to earn something to take care of you.

Ask your family's advice, they would know more about this. If you don't have a family, then find a friend that is older so he/she can give you advice. we don't really know the culture differences, but make sure you are taking the right step in life and not pushed to do something you don't want.

Answer 2

Indian culture is quite different from yours.  You very likely grew up in a Roman Catholic or other European religious tradition.  Your culture was influenced by Spanish culture for about 400 years.  So your culture is a mix of Spanish and native Fillipino cultures.  

Indian culture has a totally different cultural and religious view of marriage and the roles and value of men and women.  From a Western point of view, the traditional Indian culture treats women very poorly.

A newly married bride in an Indian household is not much better than a slave.  Ever hear of "bride burning"?  This is another unsavory aspect of how highly valued women are in Indian culture.  If the new bride isn't good enough or the dowry wasn't big enough, the new bride will be killed in a "kitchen accident".

In an Indian marriage, the young couple will often live with their parents for many years in multi-generational homes.  

In my opinion, you are almost certain to be treated like less than dirt by your mother-in-law, and if there is conflict between you and your new husband, his mother will have the final say.

Really, if you want to marry outside your Fillipino culture, find an American man who shares your religious faith.  If you are Roman Catholic, find a Catholic to marry.  American culture may seem a bit strange, but the Western European roots are pretty much the same as the western influences on your culture.

Good luck and God Bless

Answer 3

marry me instead...

Answer 4

1st, you are asking this in the 'military' section section not the 'dating and relationship' section.

2nd, why are you marrying a guy if you think he is going to make you a maid or whatever? Is this a marriage for convience? To help you out of the island? I am confused here?

I wouldn't do it if you have such feelings of the unknown and you are asking strangers online for advice. I smell something fishy. I have seen alot of bad stuff working in JAG and I don't know enough of the facts about you and him to really help. This is something you, your family and friends should be helping you with. Not us. Ask this guy his intentions also. Get it on paper.

Good luck.

My 2 cents.

Answer 5

i am an indian guy who has been married to non-indians and i can say that a lot depends on where this guy grew up. if he grew up in india then you are in for culture shock because in india a wife is a live-in maid who also provides reproduction services. if the guy grew up in the west things will be more normal between the two of you but you will still have his family to deal with. in india you don't just marry an individual. you marry the whole d**n family. this is what drove my marriages into the ground.