Why does it take disaster or tragedy for people to bond?

Question

Why does it take disaster or tragedy for people to bond?

Answer 1

Because we are a self-centered people and only the major events can peel our eyes from ourselves.

Sounds cynical, I know, but I think it's true.

I think we should all try to put others first before the tragedy or crisis...it will certainly be easier to work together if we already know one another.

Answer 2

People bond more quickly and with less reserve in a situation involving disaster or tragedy out of necessity and survival instincts.

As to why it takes this to make it happen for many, I think the reasons are varied but sadly, most involve trust issues, apathy, carelessness, or selfishness.

People get hurt, emotionally and sometimes physically in their journeys through life.  For some, this may happen when they are young, at a significant developmental stage.  For others, it might be something very traumatic.  In either case, it may alter the way their brain reacts in the future.  

Others are sensitive and feel things deeply, and they develop fears toward opening themselves to others.  They set up defensive walls and barriers to keep others out, in order to feel safe and minimize their risk of pain.

Some people simply have a self-centered, self-focused priority system which leads them to spend their time in pursuit of personal goals and achievements.  They simply have no real interest in others, and don't care to invest their time to get to know them.

And, of course, there are always many who care about others, but get so wrapped up in the daily tasks and routines of life that they forget to make them a priority.  

Disasters and tragedies tend to bring immediate and sudden clarity about what is really important in life versus the things that people put in their lives to fill up time and space.

Answer 3

Bad Experiences grow ppl closer when u stick by, they trust you and u become closer!!

It's a human thing that we all feel, A friend in need is a friend indeed :-D

Well, I think that's it, They feel safe w/ this person, comforted!

I had a friend who i had an ugly fight with but later after we confronted each other, we beacame cool friends, we share secrets and hang out!

Answer 4

I don't know, but I think you should sell cool t-shirts with this saying and maybe it would start to change peoples attitude.

Answer 5

negative events like this tend to humble people. when they are feeling wronged, hurt, depressed, afraid, or alone they are more likely to let down their guard and reach out to others.