Why does my 21 mo old son not want to be with his dad?

Question

My little boy is so stuck up my butt. He doesnt want anything to do with his father and the simplest things he yells for me. If daddy gets him a cuppy, he throws it and starts yelling "mommy" LIke he only wants it if i give it to him. My husband gave him a bath the other night and the whole time he screamed and cried for me. Its getting stressful. Its to the point my husband wont stay home alone with him because he throws such a fit for me. IM STRESSED and my husband just gets frustrated and throws his hands up in the air and who is left to do all the work?? ME! I work full time, and have a 10 year old daughter also. So i am pretty wore out. The help from Dad would be great but my son is not happy with that. Someone please give me some advice. I cant even shower without him banging on the door yelling "MOMMYYYYYY"

Answer 1

Its called separation anxiety. For his entire life you have been his primary nurturer and he is clinging to you because he sees you as his security. He is away from you all day while you are at work so he really wants to know you are there when you are home. He really does love his father and will reach a point where he wants to be with him. Its just a rotten stage they go through.

Does your husband take him places and do fun things with him? If there is something he really loves to do your husband could take him there for guys day out. Maybe they can go to Mcdonald's or the park, a play center for toddlers, etc. If its something he really enjoys then he will start realizing Daddy is good to have around too.

They should start out with short trips away so your son realizes that Daddy is fun but Mommy is close by.  

Answer 2

This is natural. Both my daughter did this, around the same age too. Now they are definately daddy's girls. Your hubby has to continue to put the effort in and the payoff will be great. When my second came along the first was about 3 1/2 and he found it so much easier to be with the older child. He'd already put all the effort to make her want to be around him. I found his slacking off with her, just a little bit. I spoke to him and reminded him about how he had to work at the first one and then he started making her spend more time with him. Now she's 4 and she will let him tend to her booboos and kiss her owies when ever they occur. Before it was "I want mommy!"

Good luck, everything will work out fine.