Why does my 9 yr old daughter lie about everything?

Question

She came in from school on Thursday and said she found money on the road. No big deal. Today she brings home a note from the principal stating she stole a girls wallet and split the money up 3 ways. After getting the truth from the principal my daughter still tried to convince me that the other girl did it.

I am not sure what to do anymore. How can I stop her from lying?

Answer 1

well she probably did it. And kids make mistakes so just tell her that was wrong and dont yell at her. And maybe ask the other kids parents the story. and has she lied about anything else?

Answer 2

kids lie its life and its the parents job to stop this now. When I was younger my parents always made telling the truth better. Basicaly if they caught me in a direct lie they would whoop my butt make me suck soap, and would be grounded, but if i told the truth I would only be grounded for about a week. Make telling the truth work and seem better and always offer one last chance to come clean.

If you don't know or not sure  about her innocence try to "guilt  it out of her" like tell her how proud you are that she didn't steal the money and how your so proud of her your going to take her out to dinner. Works if she is telling the truth then she is rewarded and if otherwise she will feel guilty enough to come clean, worked with me. good luck.

Answer 3

Don't yell at her or anything, because that will make everything worse. Just talk to her privately, and look her right in the eyes and ask if she stole it or not. And also tell her that you love her and you would not get mad at her. But that she shouldn't ever lie, if she was. And make sure does understand every word you say. She is still very young. But there is no reason why she shouldn't be stealing things, if she did. And since she is still young, maybe she doesn't think of it as stealing. Some people do that. Good luck! XD  Remember, be nice and gentle.

Answer 4

you should have a talk with her. not too stern, but tell her that you love her and that you want her to be a good person when she grows up. tell her you don't want to punish her but next time she lies like that you might just have to. tell her several times you love her but you are slightly disappointed in her. try that

Answer 5

Ask her why she even thought to do such a thing?  And tell her that if she lies about things, you won't be able to defend her when she gets in trouble for things that she really didn't do.  Tell her it is kind of like the boy who cried wolf...  Ask her how she would feel if someone stole her money.  

**** Make her own this problem:  Say to her, "This must really make you feel bad about yourself"  and don't have her look to you  for approval or disaproval... sometimes kids will do things just to upset a parent.  **** When she does things well and good and honest say to her, "Wow!  You must be proud of yourself!"     This way she will look to herself.... and by saying things this way, you are letting her know how you feel as well..... but having her "OWN" the situation.  Good luck.

Answer 6

you cant, just decide the truth yourself, it will catch up to her and then she will figure it out

Answer 7

It's not that big of a deal.

Answer 8

Don't accuse her. Sit down with her and have a chat, if she says she didn't do it- the *belive her* (make it out you do even though u know she's lying), give her more money and give her lots of love. She should come to a stop and confess to you... Good Luck! ^^

Answer 9

i don't no because I'm 14 and i remember i use lie when i was 9

Answer 10

because its human nature to lie.

tell me you never lie?

Everyone lies.. cut her some slack, she's 9 yrs old...

my gosh!

Answer 11

typicall 9 yr older just read her mrs.piggle wiggle books an then tell her tht mrs pigglewiggle then tell her if she want tht to happen to her worked my frends daughter lol

Answer 12

Don't let her get away with it.

If she can get away with it, she will do it.

If she finds money on the road.... did she put an ad in the paper asking who it belonged to?

Teach her morales and integrity and you will not have a problem.

Answer 13

Have a LONG, STERN talk with her. I would interrogate her to find out who the other kids were, and have a talk with their parents if they knew what was going on. Then I would go to the girl and make my daughter apologize, and she'd be grounded at home for at least 2 weeks.

Answer 14

a thief and a liar, she will be in Juvy by the time she is 14 unless you take action now! If she were my daughter, I would  take her over my knee, drop her pants, and slap her bare butt till it were cherry red. I would also let her know that wll be the same consequence every time she does something like this. You need to get her back on track.