I can understand why my Mom misses me because we were very close & even though I have a lot of siblings, she always made time for me. We'd go out once a week just the two of us & share a meal and just talk. Later, I learned she had something special like that with all her kids (ie: her and my twin used to go to the arcade, then have ice cream & chat)
Dad on the other hand took care of us financially, but that was about it. When we were little, Mom used to try and get him to do stuff with us independently of her, but he wasn't interested. He was extremely controlling of us kids and whenever he and Mom were on the outs, he would find something wrong with one of us and make a big deal out of it so they could team up on one kid & Mom would forget she was mad at Dad.
Now we're all grown with our own families & lives. All of us still call Mom on a regular basis, send her packages, etc. I figured my Dad would be ecstatic to FINALLY have her all to himself and us out of the house.
But he's not. Instead, for the first time, he acts like he's interested and wants to have a relationship with us kids. He calls us, emails and wants to spend time together.
I don't have a problem with this, but am trying to figure out why he didn't act like that when I was a kid/teenager/young adult still living with him
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