Why does my Dad get in these moods?? ?

Question

Well my Dad has been out of work for some time and he is currently working on another endeavor. Anyways, some things that he has to do in order to start working require him to do stuff on the computer, which he is not savvy with at all.

So I'll be honest when I say that he frustrates me with some of his questions, but I am happy to help him because he is my Dad (and I've told him this). But today, he is going to run all the way to San Antonio (from Houston) to go see my Uncle for help with some things on the computer. He tells me that he doesn't even want to ask me because I get "irritated" with him and that my Mom is always busy with work and won't just take a day off just to concentrate a whole day on helping him with his things.

He just left and I feel like it is my fault. I want to help him. I really do. I am doing a lot of his errands, cleaning up after him, and trying to make this transition as easy as it can be. But now he acts like he is all mad at me and my Mother and is running off to San Antonio. I don't know what to do. I feel like this is my fault. I'm just trying to be a good son.

Any advice?

Answer 1

You are being a good son.  But he's probably just irritated and a little ashamed.  It's probably a little embarassing for him to be out of work and rely on his son to help him something when he should be the one helping you.  There isn't anything wrong with it, but sometimes people see things that way.  I say you talk to him about it.  Explain how you're feeling.  Not only will it help you both solve this issue and make you feel better, but it will also strengthen your communication and your relationship.

Answer 2

AND YOUR  A GOOD SON,,SOMETIMES DADS JUST NEED TO GET AWAY N THEY USE OTHER PEOPLE FOR EXCUSES,,,TO DO SO...AND U NO U COULD HAVE WEN TO THE LIBARY N GOT HIM A CD OF" HOW TOO USE   A COMPUTER FOR DUMMIES,",,HEY IT HELPED ME OUT N I HAD NO ONE TO HELP ME,,,PEACE

Answer 3

Sweetheart>>>this is NOT your fault. I think your dad is just going through a hard time right now. BUT I think he might feel inferior to you because you know something that he doesn't. And he probally feels odd about it. That his son knows more about something then he does. But thats not your fault because he's insecure about the way he feels about himself. I know this is an easy thing to say, but try not to take it too personally. I know thats hard to do because you are his son and him your dad. So it is personal>>>I know. But this is not your fault at all honey. Just try and remember that alright. He's just under alot of pressure right now worrying how he's to handle things. This has NOTHING to do with you. So if he trys and make you feel that way again, try to remember my words. He's feeling very INSECURE right now.  

Answer 4

not making money and being abel to support your family is very hard on self esteam and will cause him to push you and your mom away be patient

Answer 5

Try to look at it from his perspective.  He is out of work and subsequently not a bread winner.  That is somewhat deflating for a man in todays society.  Second, he is trying something new which can be frightening and having difficulty.  This does not help.  Then he has to ask his son for help.  Your kids you always want to be a hero for not need help.  And in your frustration with him he feels further diminished.

It is not your fault at all but you can help the situation with less attitude.  He is going to see his brither because in that there is less judgement even if it is just coming from inside himself.