Why does my bf act like this?He was cooking on the grill and I was doing some things that I needed to do.?

Question

. All of a sudden he comes in and starts an argument about things I have said out of jest.( By the way he had been drinking all day)

As a result, I decide to leave the room....I don't want to fight. At this point he says...fine, I'm leaving....a wonderful meal being ruined. What is wrong with this man....every time we spend more than 2 nights together this happens.....I'm confused and don't know if I should continue seeing him....what do you think is the problem

Thanks for all answers

Answer 1

2 nights with you is his limit, he probably needed to pick a fight with you as an excuse to leave to get home to his wife and kids.

Answer 2

Drinking will kill any relationship if there a bad drunk. If you can't spend two day together dont you think thats a bad sign?

Answer 3

Experience tells me that he's feeling guilty about something.  And don't let anybody tell you it's the drink talking because drink does not make up things to say.   It can't come out of his mouth if the thought isn't already in his head.

If you want more of this behavior, by all means stay.  Me, I'd leave and tell him to give me a call when he grows up.

Answer 4

1. He drinks too much

2. He has issues with his emotions

3. He is not in love with you anymore

4. You either need to have a serious talk with him and try to fix things or break it off with him and find a man that will care for you better.

Best luck.

Answer 5

Honey,

Most folks that drink want to stir up trouble I call these folks Mean drunks....Just lookn for a fight.

Another drunker will tear up hug everyone in the room. I call this guy an emotional drinker

When ever folks drink their personality changes. Hate to say it but rarely it is for the good. You really need to understand this because next time when he comes in lookn' for a fight you will take a step back and see why he is acting that way

Answer 6

At first blush I would have to say his drinking.It is either that he uses alcohol to say things to you that under normal circumstances he will not say.  Or that he wants to end the relationship and under the guise of alcohol,he says and does things he knows would bother you and hopefully you would walk away and leave him (an outcome he is after).He appears to be succeeding as you are thinking if you should continue to see him.Have a talk with him and ask some tough questions and demand answers from him before you act.You do not need to remain confused.

Answer 7

you can blame it on the drinking but i have five brothers and i strongly believe that the truth comes out when you have been drinking.  Maybe something is stressing him out maybe work, maybe even the relationship.  When he is not drinking i suggest you two sit down and have a nice long conversation about whats going on.  My boyfriend does the same thing it flies off the handle about the smallest thing because he lets things build up without saying anything and when he gets just a little alcohol in him that's it.  You have to make a decision after you two talk whether you two should be together or let it go.  Please don't waste either one of your time if neither one of you are happy or can't get along more the 48 hours.  Last question to ask yourself has he ever been in a more serious relationship? If yes find out why it ended he may hesitate to tell you and probably even lie,  If no then He probably is listening to his boys telling him that your hanging around to much and your keeping him from them.  

Answer 8

you spending to much too time with him so just go with friends  to some where close.  and see happens. you need a break from him. and the drinking well duh maybe the  drinking has something to do with it.  

Answer 9

I think the problem is he's not making you happy. Also this would partly have to do with him drinking. Does he starts arguments while sober. I was in a relationship like this for a long time. It may take a while for you to realize you can find someone who will love you no matter what you're doing while they're cookin' on the grill. Otherwise maybe he's just having a bad day and he won't do this again? good Luck Hun.

Answer 10

I suggest sitting him down and asking him in a serious but not too serious manor whats his problem. Because yelling might spark another argument  

Answer 11

He drinks too much... you don't have the right food at your house.... he's an ***... mix them all together... and it make yck.

Answer 12

*cough* he's drinking.