Why does my cat not want any affection except feeding,?

Question

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e only likes to be stroked sometimes.

Answer 1

Cats are independent and want things the way they want them. If he decides he wants your attention he'll let you know. My cat has moods and stays pretty much to himself until bedtime then he's attached to me like an extra arm.

Answer 2

If you give too much food and treats too often and let them share your own food this is how they become. 2 meals a day with a treat in between is enough and should be done at the same times each day so that your cat knows when to expect its food rather than hanging around each and every minute. Play games with your cat and stroke it so that it learns that there is more to life than just food.

Answer 3

I had a cat for over 20 years and she was really affectionate - she craved affection.  In fact, before remote controls were the norm, we would walk to the TV to change channels with her still clutching your lap!!

Sadly she died and after 6 months I got two rescue cats - litter mates.

One of them hates to be cuddled, will only let you stroke her for a couple of minutes then gets up and walks away (after lashing out normally)  She will sit with you when she wants to!  She does everything on her terms!  

Her sister will sit on your lap sometimes and let you stroke her a little more.  They are easily scared (obviously the reason they were rescue cats) and will not stay in the house if there are more than 4 people around.

So please don't take it that the cat doesn't like you ... she will gradually let you stroke her and perhaps give her a cuddle.

Answer 4

One of my cats is like this.  All over you when feeding time, then doesn't want to know.  She does come for a fuss at times but only when she wants to.

Some cats are like this, some are mega fussy and some aren't....

Answer 5

It sounds like a symptom of being a cat! I have 2, one of which is lovely and loves to be cuddled, while her brother hates being stroked unless he asks for it. There's no such thing as 'normal' where cat behaviour is concerned.

If I were you, I'd make the most of her when she's feeling affectionate, and try not to annoy her too much when she's grumpy.