Why does my dad and brother have to pressure me?

Question

My dad and older brother always tell me that I need to exercise and make fun of me because I don't do sports.

I'm 5"2' and I'm 105 pounds. So I'm skinny.

I hate doing sports, they just aren't my thing. But in my family, its everyone elses thing. They annoy me so much when they tell me that, and I always tell them that too.

What should I tell them to make them stop?

Answer 1

I find being straight with them.  Tell them you don't like sports and in your family you know it makes you freakish.  tell them pressuring you will not change that.  If that doesn't work every time they start in, leave the room.  If you are at a family function walk away.  

Answer 2

Some kind of exercising is good for you.  

If you are young, it will help you get older gracefully.  

Answer 3

You don't say how old you are if your under 14 there isn't much you can do just deal with their pressure.  But you need to tell them you don't like sports. My brother was just like you small and thin and hated playing sports. He did love to watch sports and his dream was to get season tickets and he has them now.

Just set goals for what you want to do in life and then sit down with your Dad, without your brother. Tell him this is what you want to do in life and your not going to apologize that your life isn't going the way he wants it, but all you ask from him is his love and support. Get Mom to back you up if you can or some other non-sporty type relation like an uncle, cousin or even grandpa!

Answer 4

honestly, you sound like my little sister and i sound like your older brother

Basically i did it because when my sister stopped doing sports, she was like giving her life to this guy, and she was only 15.  

It was just annoying, plus you don't really need to do sports.  Maybe they just want you to exercise more and don't like how you are spending your time.  They would prefer that you invest it

I am not saying you are doing anything wrong, but maybe they see you doing something wrong.

Answer 5

be like shut the h**l up, sorry im not the hulk.

Answer 6

Exercise is good for you no matter what size. If sports arent for you - take up jogging.

Answer 7

well what i think is that you need to stand up for yourself and show them that you have another talent. and prove that everybody is different and you shouldn't be forced to do things that are uncomfortable with you

Answer 8

Just tell them to stop and ask them to please stop saying that i will make my own decisions. I have that happen to me a lot of times and i tell them to stop and they don't so i ignore them and or agree and they think that is annoying so try it.  

Answer 9

Tell them that you like the way you look and you are okay with the fact that sport's aren't your thing. Tell them while they're together. Say that they're getting you very upset and that you're tired of telling them over and over to leave you alone. Sound very serious and don't start whinning.

If they do it again, just remind them of the talk and make them feel as if you're so sick of them that you don't even care anymore. They'll eventually stop.

Answer 10

Tell them that if you develop a life-threatening eating disorder then it will be on their heads.  Also, fake cry whenever they say something like that, pull your hair and say'I'm a fat COW  I KNEW it!  WAAAA'  hopefully they shut up then.  Also, you totally don't need to excersize or anything like that, you are very thin and probably fit as well.  Don't let them bother you.

Answer 11

You probably can't stop them, since they are bigger than you. You could try asking your mum to sort it out with them. You could try suggesting they read some books so you can have an intellectual conversation with them, because at the moment they bore you. Or you could find a sport you like. Fencing, orienteering, archery? We're in the SCA and my very non-sporty hubby likes the archery and is working on armour so he can fight with sword and shield too. (Not real swords, wooden ones.) Lots of the girls do archery, and a couple fight with sword and shield. Anyway, check out http://www.sca.org You don't say how old you are, so you may not be able to do all the stuff, but there's enough to keep you occupied. Medieval dancing is pretty cool, not too boisterous :)

Answer 12

Pull a guilt trip on them...say things like, "I'm sorry that I'm not good enough for you, what can I do to make you accept me for who I am, like family members are supposed to do?"

Try to sound really believable, not sarcastic or anything.  It will really make them think and analyze themselves.

Answer 13

Tell them to do something that you like and if they say no to it then say well now i guess you see how I feel?

Answer 14

Be rude.

Tell them something like, your not as big as them so you dont have to excersise. XD

Im the same way