Why does my father keep doing this?

Question

Okay I'm 17 years old. I live at home with my parents and there is NO WAY I can afford to move out but I do pay rent to my mum and dad, so please don't say that this is the only answer. First of all my Dad is really s******g me over, its like he delibrately wants to get a rise out of me. This morning I was making a bacon sandwich and he comes downstairs and says "Why are you using my bread" I was like "erm It doesnt have your name on it, its for everyone to use" so he pushes me towards the cooker?! What the **** is the point, especially when theres a boiling hot pan of oil on there! Then he says "dont go sit in the living room, i dont want you anywhere near me" WHY?! This isnt the only thing, hes always taking joy from reminding me that I failed college and I cant find a job, I am currently applying to be a trainee vet nurse but he says theres no way I will get it because I am dumb. He also always calls me ugly and fat and then after says "why are u upset, it was only a joke"... Why is he so cruel and nasty?

Answer 1

I don't understand how you are paying rent to your mom if you don't have a job but what your father is doing is a form of mental abuse. He is probably upset because you didn't live up to his expectations but you're still his daughter and he shouldn't be talking to you like that. He is probably insecure about himself deep inside. Hope you find a job soon and good luck with being a vet nurse. You can do it!

Answer 2

I agree with Aramanth.Your father is abusive because he is so

unhappy in his own life that he takes it out on your because you are a convenient target. I would avoid him at all costs. Leave the room

when he comes in and just don't talk  to him. If you don't give  him the fuel he can't build the fire. Good luck with your training program!  

Answer 3

Okay so this is my thought talk to your mom about what your dad is saying. He probably is getting a little mad that your still there your parents reallly think after your turn 18 your suppose to be gone. This is probably his way of pushing you. Just keep in mind that he loves you deep down, hes probably just stressed out, try to sit down with him and tell him what your saying is not helping me get back on the right track. He just needs to hear this from you.

Answer 4

omg he abuses u?

Well he probably has some issues

or hes upset that u failed and make u miserable

Answer 5

You need to take a job..any job..to save enough money to leave.  Your father appears to be very critical and he feels he can treat you this way because you live under his roof.  Get your own place and show him that you are smart and can make it on your own.  

In the meantime, you can stay out of your dad's way and just do your thing.  Clean up after yourself and start making moves.

Good Luck

Answer 6

He's cruel and nasty because he hates himself.  He may not change.  Maybe you just need to be out of his way as much as you can.  You'll find a job soon and be able to move out.  He has so many issues that moving be your only salvation.

Answer 7

Ahem, a joke?  That's not a joke, it's cruel.  A joke would be patting you on the back or playing Ding Dong Ditch, not pushing you towards a cooker or calling you dumb or ugly and fat.  Talk to your mom about this right away.  I'm sure she'll understand.