Why does my friend always say they don't mind?

Question

One of my friends always says they don't mind. How can I get her to actually tell me what she prefers instead of me always trying to guess. She never arranges anything and whenever I ask her if she wants to go out in the day or evening she always says yes but never makes any suggestion where to go. Once out if you ask her if she wants to go for lunch yet or get a drink she always says she don't mind to everything. Experance tells me she does sometimes mind cause several years ago she had a paddie that no one ever does what she wants to do. How can I get her to actually say whats on her mind? It makes going out more hard work that it needs to be. She is older than me and I am in my late 20's. I have tried narrowing down the choices to see if that helps, like suggesting a couple of things, yet still no decision. I have spoke to her about it but nothing seams to go in.

Answer 1

maybe she doesn't want to hurt your feelings if its in that sort of situation, or maybe she doesn't want to make you do something you dont want to do, and feels it would be easier for you to make the decision, I'm exactly like it, people get really frustrated with me being so indecisive, dont pressure her, but make sure she knows that she has to make the decision or she will never get what she wants.

hope this helps x

Answer 2

I think this is some sort of dreaded disease, because both me and my boyfriend suffer from it, BADLY, but half the time we might actually mind. even when it is a simple decision as picking between four films, we've now started to do things like, both write down on a peice of paper which film we'd prefer and then pass it to the other, or put it in a hat. it does become difficult when neither of us can reach a decision. prehaps mention to her that your worried you'll end up deciding something she doesn't want to do, so would she please say in future.

goodluck  

Answer 3

i think some people may just be like that! i'm one of those people who always says 'i don't mind' ... i think it may be an issue with not wanting to let people down by making the wrong decision and if things go wrong having the other person to be able to say well, u made the decision! don't get hung up about it tho, if ur friend won't say what she wants then u get ur way all the time...