Why does my girlfriend get so mad at me for wanting to see my son?

Question

I have two boys, 12 and 9. My 12 year old lives with me and my 9 year old boy lives with his mother(both have differant mothers) witch I can't get along with at all. It's hard enough for me to see him because of her (the mother). My most recent girlfriend has two boys as well and both live with her as do I. But when it comes time for me to even get a chance to be able to see my 9 year old son, She gets all jelouse and starts to argue with me and holds a grug agenst me. Whats up with this jelousy? He's my son and I miss him when he's not around. Why do I have to get so much of a hard time in order for me to spend time with Him? If it's not my X its My girlfriend. What is it that I'm doing wrong?

Answer 1

>What is it that I'm doing wrong?

Have you thought about MARRIAGE?   [NOT California-type marriage; rather, the "until death do us part" type marriage!]

You have two sons by two different women and now you live with your "most recent" girlfriend who has twp boys as well -- how many fathers involved in that situation?

Answer 2

Maybe she wants the kid all to herself and shes worried that the kid will get too attached to you. More attached to you then her and the thought of that makes her jealous, which isn't right. you're the father and she should let you spend time with your own son! If you have to, i'd take her to court.

Answer 3

you are doing nothing and frankly if she cannot accept the fact that you need to see your son (which she is not accepting what so ever) then you need to move on and find someone who is willing to accept EVERYTHING that comes along with being in a relationship with you.

Answer 4

I see that with my daughter/grandson and the boyfriend.  He's afraid that something will spark her interest and she (my daughter) will want to go back with him.  Because of the sexual relationship they once had, there is a fine line between civil and children.  Some "partners' don't understand this.  

She wants you and doesn't want to loose you.  That's what I think.  I've been there.

Answer 5

jealous is the key here and unfortunly your son and you are suffering because of it you need to take her to court and get access to your kid as for your current girlfriend she needs to grow up and think about your sons feelings

Answer 6

Ur not doin ne thing wrong she is jus really jealous and thts not fair on u but most importantly ur children. She jus wants u 2 look after and care 4 'her' family she is jus bein selfish and u sud tell her so, or mayb suggest tht wen u c ur son mayb u sud all go out 2getha but somewhere u can also go off and b wit him 4 a while tht way every1 wins!!

Good Luck!

Answer 7

You are doing nothing wrong at all. If she can't understand that you need to see your children, then she shouldn't even be a parent herself. She should know these things. Kudos to you for being in your childs life, not enough fathers are.