Why does my girlfriend stare at men when we are out ?

Question

Ive been with my gf for a month now, shes only 19 and im 26. But whenever we are out she stares at men, ok, most times it when they walk past so i put it down to distractions. But last night there was a tabl of blokes who she kept staring at. now im not the jealous type so i said nothing, but after a while i did, and she just said she thought she saw someone she knew walk past..................... i kinda shut off after this, kept my srms to myself and she realised i wasnt happy. she stopped looking at them and i thought, great shes noticed without me saying anything, then it happened again. she does this most times we go out, looking at men, i dont sit there talking to her staring at women ! now i do think she likes me alot, shes always the 1st to text me, alwas makes the 1st move and what she says makes me think that she does care, but i cant get over this. i have spoken to her about staring at men in the past and she makes a joke about it and says she will try harder, then start laughing when she fails saying shes trying. i do like her but i dont want to be messed around. none of my othr gf did this.

Answer 1

oh she's just "Day Dreaming" "Fantasizing" But you, young man need to lose that Negative attitude, I have a wife that is younger than I am and when we first met, got hooked up to gether, I had such a "Negative" attititude around her, SHE Told me about my negative attitude I HAD TO CHANGE IT.  You  need to RELAX and GROW UP!! It's that simple!

Answer 2

okay sounds like she rlly like you!

thts good.

:)

make my job easier, alright

you were telling of stories and in all of the stories you backed down!

you cant do tht if u want her to tke u seriously.

tell her again, and when she laughs or makes a joke say no ur not trying, and when she stares at you in astonishment explain what you explained to me just now!

i am sure u have been in fights before, and so this is just another one of those. she might get mad.

but stand your ground.

she is gonna have to deal with the consequences.

and if he dumps you, you know that that is what God had planned all along.

and if she get over it which she will!!!!!

then u guys can solve it.

:)

goodluck!

Answer 3

Thank God it has only been a month but hate to tell you that she is way too young for the kind of relationship it sounds like you want so let her go and try again. at your age you should not settle for anything like that trust me there will be someone that wont even want to look at another man because she will think you are the greatest thing so give her the same standards you live by if you wouldnt do it to her then the woman you are with shouldnt do it to you. and if she really cared she would have stopped after the first time

Answer 4

I do that too, but it really doesn't mean anything. I do it unconsciously most of the time. And it doesn't mean that I don't like the guy I'm with, it doesn't mean anything actually.  

Answer 5

Sorry to say but the fact that she's only 19 is probably part of the reason.  She's not as mature as you are.  Although you like her alot if she continues to do things that bother you even after you have talked to her about it...she is being stubborn and disrespectful.  I suggest you talk to her again and let her know how serious you are about it.  If she still doesn't get it she doesn't deserve you.  Good luck

Answer 6

well..i think i wuld do that too.even though i love my bf a lot.guys cant stop looking at beautiful girls..and girls (like her and me..we are very young) cant stop looking at good looking guys. it doesnt mean anything coz in the end im always with my bf :-) hes the one thats actually caring for me,rite.

Answer 7

well, when a lady is not married, she has the right to choose.

In fact, every person's mind have another person in mind. It is just that he or she has not cheated on you, and that is the most important.

It is unlikely that a person will only have a person in mind, and it is natural for a person to think of other guys sometimes.

However, if she keeps staring at other guys when you are around, you may need to sound her out. Is it because she does not feel the sense of security in you, or is it her own nature of being a flirt?  

Answer 8

If I am in a relationship and my girlfriend doesn't give me her full attention, I will let her go!  

Answer 9

The truth is, she probably doesn't even notice she's doing it... My boyfriend IS the jealous type and would bring it to my attention... I would just be looking at them because I thought I knew them... or I'd just be staring off into space. Talk to her about it... don't just hold it in. I bet she doesn't mean to... I know I never did.