Why does my guy best friend want s*x after he said he didnt want to ruin out friendship?? i see him today!!?

Question

i like my best friend a lot and i know he likes me. last night i was at my best friends house i dont know how it happend but one second we were just talking and the next well... i gave him a bj (i dont normally do this ever) and then he tried to have s*x with me but i said no cuz i wasnt ready... but the wierd thing was he didnt pressure me just held me tight and let me rest my head on his shoulder... why?? when i wanted more from him a month ago he said that it would affect our friendship and i dont want to mess it up.... but then yesterday why did this happen? and what should i do?? i know maybe talk to him and say what??

Answer 1

"he didnt pressure me just held me tight and let me rest my head on his shoulder... why??"

Because he was already satisfied.

"when i wanted more from him a month ago he said that it would affect our friendship and i dont want to mess it up.... but then yesterday why did this happen?"

Maybe he changed his mind after a month. Or maybe he is just fickle like all men are. Many times we will say one thing but if the opportunity arises, we can't help but seize the moment.

"what should i do?? i know maybe talk to him and say what??"

If you wish to continue your friendship, you need to talk openly with him about it. Tell him that you've never done anything like that before and don't want it to ruin your friendship. You could either try to go back to a platonic relationship or just "upgrade" it to friends with benefits. You both need to be comfortable with what you decide or the relationship will probably end.

Answer 2

well go and read sassy-ness  she is in same boat but she has been giving it to him but he dont want to be boyfriend and girlfriend...so dont give it to him thinking he will be your boyfriend he has to make that commitment before you give it to him...so good luck

Answer 3

I would say both of yours feelings have escalated beyond friendship and you giving him the bj showed him you were interested in more.  If that is what you want, then go for it.  

Answer 4

i think the point of making the decision weither to be friends or partners was about 5 minutes before you swallowed lastnight.

no sense in getting all nervous now.. you sorta already passed the point of no return... what have you got to lose now by giving the relationship a try?

Answer 5

My guess is because you are hot and he liked the bj and wanted more. Good Luck.

Answer 6

well maybe cuz he is older. older guys want to have s*x to impress there friends. to them its like a trophy sometimes. i would not have s*x but if you fell comfortable, let him touch and play with you a little. that way you don't have to have s*x and he gets to know you better.