Why does my horse have to be such a brat?? And problem with instructor...?

Question

Okay, I seriously HATE my horse today!!! I had a lesson today with my instructor in western pleasure and she would not get her headset or get under herself... So my instructor told me to give her a little more rein, keep my hands lower and then "play" with the reins to encourage her to get her head down... As soon as I gave her a little more rein she threw her head up bolted and then bucked really high and threw me off. I didn't get hurt but i was pissed! My instructor blamed the incedent on me and said that she threw her head up because when I was attempting to give her more rein I leaned forward and dug my heals into her sides... Which I DIDN'T do. So I asked my instructor to get on to see if it would happen for her and my horse was perfect!!! I was so p'd off at the situation!! I don't want my instructor showing me up with MY horse and that's what she was doing, she wasn't helping me just showing me how good SHE was at riding... What should I do?

Answer 1

Listen fool! It's not ur horses fault! u probal did dig ur heels in to the horse when u leaned forward. DUH! ur instructer is not the fool u is the fool! fool! ur instructer has been riding longer than u! people who blame their horse all the time r usually bad riders!

Answer 2

Listen to your instructor. She is trying to help you. It seems you are more the brat than your horse. The horse does what it is told and motioned to do.Your instructor is good at riding horses, she is not trying to show you up. Stop your whining and listen!

Answer 3

Think the "attitude problem" is yours.

There is a vast difference between a "Rider" and a "Horseman"  --  you are the former.

Try another hobby than horses....seems you're not well suited for equine interraction.

Answer 4

listen 2 homie g idiot. god stupid people tick me off.

Answer 5

I agree with Rosi about the video.

This is perfect for seeing where your faults are.  When you are riding you may not feel them but when you see the video you'll be like "Holy smokes, I had no idea!  It didn't feel that way!"

At the same time you can put your horses reactions in tune with whatever you do (his ears flutter, swivel, tail flicks...rounding back, head goes up a bit)

On the same lines as Blue Sage Badger:

I know when I was a kid I would blame everyone else but me...I was embarrassed.

I could fall off my bike because I had bad balance and I'd blame the road "there was a hole, a rock..etc..."

When in reality it was me.  

As an adult I have since learned that just owning up to it makes you a bigger and better person and you learn plus you gain respect from others.  They know you are honest.

I am the first to admit that I am not good in the saddle.  Bet you ride better than me!  I am not ashamed of that fact.  I own up to it and my horses even respect me for it. haha

They don't push me too much. :)

Get the camera and ask questions of your friends watching...and pick your trainers brain (ask mega questions and 'why' "how come?" types)

OH...for my mare she has a hard time with a lower head carriage.  She isn't built for that so I let her head carry how she is comfy.  I know when she's getting 'excited high' and I bring her back to her normal carriage.

To do this I wiggle one rein.  Just one.  When that head comes down a touch I stop.  I do it again til I get her lowering to where I want.  She's still green to this so you see how it works for a novice horse on this cue.

My gelding...he's always got his head low.  Whoever trained him was serious about that low head set!

Good luck...and take the vids.  Ask questions.

Don't point fingers.

If you are mad at your horse (or frustrated) when you ride, you will not have a good outcome.  He knows. :)

Answer 6

If your instructor didn't get bucked off and your horse went GREAT for her, sounds like she knows what she's doing and you don't.  On your NEXT lesson, get your mom or somebody to video it and YOU can see what you are doing wrong.  Sometimes when you're on board your horse, you may feel like everything is going right, but it isn't.

Answer 7

Sounds to me like you are pointing fingers at your horse & your instructor.  

Just remember, when you point a finger there are always three pointing back at you.

The horse worked for your instructor, because the instructor knows how to ride, that is why SHE is the instructor.  Your best bet would be to listen to the instructor, who has more knowledge & who was on the ground watching you ride where she was able to see things you don't realize you are doing.

You did blame your horse & said you HATE it.

You do realize don't you that blaming your horse when things go wrong is the "TRUE" sign that the rider lacks experience, knowledge & maturity.

Answer 8

that happened to me latly

i was trialing a horse and it took off on me.

and wouldnt stop,.

I fell off and then it ran, the woman selling it was a complete BI*ch and told me i was a beginer because it took off.

By the way this horse bucked a few people off that trialed it.

I know a friend of a friend who got biucked off.

Anyway some people are just not that nice

U may have done something wrong, but remember your instructer is more advanced than u, she has been riding longer and can do more than u, so maybe she was just fermer.

If ur not happy with her, get rid of her,

Gd luck

Answer 9

I have fallen so many times!!!!! your instuctor probably seemed to show you  up but didnt mean to..... I think thaqt you may of shifted a little in the saddle and your horse took the opening...... Next time take a deep breath and try again.....     Pleas edont have a go at the people who comment they are only trying to help.....Good luck

Answer 10

99% of errors made are rider errors. There are very few times when a horse decides that he WILL not do something.

Your Instructor is probably well-trained herself. She's probably had years of riding and perfecting herself with horses that are much meaner and/or harder than your horse. She knows what she's doing. If she saw you dig in your heels into your mare's sides (a general no-no, mares are sensitive) you probably did.

And as for her getting on, you really are sounding like a spoiled brat. Your instructor was probably trying to help you, and show you what you did or didn't do, and you are thinking that she's showing off. I find that completely and utterly retarded. Your trainer is a INSTRUCTOR. I-N-S-T-R-U-C-T-O-R. Meaning she rides a lot, TRAINS horses and riders, and you think she shows off. She probably has a right to show off. For you to complain makes the situation blow up. Honestly, if you think your instructor is showing you up on your horse, you shouldn't have a horse.

And your horse isn't a brat. Mares have a tendancy that if they don't like the way you ride them, they will be very opinionated about it. My mare is, other people's mares are, and if you think you're being singled out, that your mare decides that she despises you, you are pretty pathetic.

Suck it up, get on the horse, say your sorry, and listen to your instructor when she tries to help.

No wonder my trainer is annoyed when she finds students like this.

Oh, and by the way... Don't complain about people's spelling if you can't spell yourself. 'Heals' is spelt 'Heels' you smart ***. :)

Answer 11

alright hommie g i have been riding for 12 years and that will not make a horse buck he probally just got sacared now to answer your question you  can use a martingale

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Answer 12

Your horse is not a brat, she just doesn't understand what you want from her.  You are not communicating well with her.  She is probably more frustrated than you are.  Just as an aside, when you are angry and "hate" your horse, you should put your horse up and get away from her.  Horses are extremely intuitive and you will not make a positive impression if you are out of control, and horses have a very long memory.  Your horse does not understand anger and hate and "being pissed off".  All of that and any other petty human demonstrations is meaningless to her.  Your horse will interpret such energy as something she needs to react and protect herself from.  Not good for either one of your.  As you saw with the success of your horse when ridden by your instructor, the problem with headset and driving from behind was NOT the horse's fault, it was YOURS.  Your instructor did not get you thrown, again, it was your lack of communication with your horse.  No one is showing you up.  You have a poor perspective.  You should view all of these things as an opportunity to learn and improve as it appears you had every opportunity to do so in this situation.  Step back.  Calm down.  Get some self control.  If you don't like your instructor's methods, get a new one, but constructive criticism is inherent in any learning forum.  Maybe your are being too sensitive.  You should take advantage of every chance you have to learn even if you learn what not to do.  This is not meant in a negative way, just an observation from a positive thought process.  Be safe.

Answer 13

First of all, you asked her to get on the horse so she did.  I do not think it was her intention to show you up..I wouldn't think you are in competition with each other....I just think your pride as hurt from what happened.  It may be the first time but it could happen again.

Did your instructor once mounted show you how to acheive what you were attempting?  My instructor has pointed out things to me that I swear I wasn't  doing..but that is why having a ground person is so important because we can't see everything we are doing!!

Perhaps you could have someone video tape you riding so you can study yourself and see what you look like....it is very helpful and I highly recommend it.

As far as collecting your horse you need to push with your seat to get them underneath themselves and up in the bridle but then loosen the rein so you are not in her mouth once she moves into the bridle.  Sometimes when people give their horse their head they can get out of balance...but not sure why she would throw her head and buck.  But unfortunately, your balance must have been off otherwise you would not have fallen off...  

Just dust yourself off try to understand what she was telling you and practice it in your head and next week will be a new experience.  Try not to be so sensitive...our instructors are really trying to make us good riders...and sometimes the truth hurts.  But it could mean the difference of being an ok rider and a great rider.  I assume you picked her because of  seeing her ride or give other lessons...

Of course...I'm not aware of the results of the rest of your lessons....