Why does my mom treat me so differently from my siblings, practically ignoring me?

Question

I'm the youngest child of three, i have an older brother and sister. It seems a bit selfish but my mom has ignored my wants/needs. She neglects to pick up my prescription from the pharmacy, but if it were my brother's or sister's, she'd be sure to pick it up on time. My brother and sister are both going back to school and i'm a bit jealous because she keeps buying them things they don't need and i need a pair of shoes because i run cross country and i stepped on a few nails with my shoes and they have holes in them (not to mention they're 2 years old and my coach won't let me run in them anymore). Every time i ask her to take me to the store she says she's too tired (she does work a lot). But ten minutes later she'll take my sister to the mall to get her something she doesn't need, when all i wanted was to buy deodorant. She seems to hate me when, in theory, i am the one she should be proud of and most of my friends parents even say that. I'm a straight A student, varsity runner, i'm on NHS, i got into an elite math academy and my brother and sister live off her even though they're old enough to move out and get jobs that pay well. Not to mention both of them barely graduated from high school because they lacked effort. I'm not a horrible kid, so i don't know why my mom treats me this way. and yes, i am jealous, kinda obvious

Answer 1

Your mom is guilty of something and is trying to compensate that with overindulging your brother and sister. You are obviously the most independent one, so she doesn't think you need that much help. She's ignorant and doesn't think you need her emotional support. She'll soon realize that it's a big mistake to treat you this way.

Please talk to her about this, tell her how you feel. You can also get closer to a family member you look up to, like an older cousin or aunt.

Stay in school so you can eventually move out and get a good job. Don't let their ignorance stop your motivation.

Hope everything works out for you! We're cheering for you!! :)

Answer 2

Well, just wait until you graduate high school and go to college or university.... its your brother and sisters lives, if they wanna be useless mooches then let them! be the pilot of your own life . Oh, and you could get a job and pay for the stuff yourself, that would help.

Answer 3

You should be jealous. You sound like the poster child for any parent. The child anyone would want to have. Try to sit down and explain to your mother how you feel. Explain to her that she seems to be ignoring your needs. Make hints especially toward the shoes since they will be the most important thing for your track career and getting into college on a track scholarship. Maybe your mom still wishes that your brother and sister were still young and that she could do it all over again and make their s***w-ups disappear. Suggest that instead of ignoring you, incorporate you with your brother and sister. If she doesn't listen, then try bringing it to the attention of any other adult, like your father or other family members.

Answer 4

My mom is the same way, not to that degree, but she is the same. I have needed makeup remover for months now and the drug store is five minutes away, everytime i ask her, she is to busy, to tires, about to do sometihng or "i dont deserve it" however my mom spent $40 on fabric so my sister could make a mermaid outfit. Maybe your mom thinks that they need to be babied more because they are not as good as you...Im not sure, but ask your coach if he can take you to buy a pair of shoes, or a grandma, or a dad.