Why does my mother think that i'll never be happy if I don't get married and have babies?

Question

some quotes from my mother "of course you'll get married and have kids".

but to be honest, i don't know if i want kids. i love babies, but i HATE HATE HATE kids who are about 7-10 years old...and of course, their teenage years would be difficult. and these days they are spoilt and arrogant. maybe i will when im older, but its not one of the main things i wanna do.

also, i really want to fall in love with the right person when i do...not at the "right time in my life" as my mother says. maybe i will get married...she seems to think i definately will.

according to her unmarried people stay with their parents, alone and a virgin. i mean, what the h**l?

if i suggest the idea of getting married in your late thirties or so she laughs and says "it'll be so difficult having your children..."

i hate it so much...i wanna travel the world...have my passionate affairs and meet new people and do exciting things.

i dont wanna live the button down life that she does. what do i do?

Answer 1

tell her that straight at her face and put her at her place.

Answer 2

Just do your own thing.  She's your mom, she has to respect that.

But to play devil's advocate, even though i'm 15, I can't wait to get married and have a kid.  There's so much materialism going around, you can get whatever you want with whatever money you have, but sometimes that's just not enough.  You can s***w men in 40 different countries, but if you don't find love, what do you have at the end of the day?

Probably an STD.

Answer 3

Dont listen to your mom, its your life, she has no control of it.

Answer 4

I get the same things from my friends simply because I happen to think babies are cute. That doesn't mean I'm going to run out and have a whole litter myself.

Maybe your mother found she was happier after having her own children and thinks you're missing out on that. Maybe she really just wants grandchildren. I think some parents get bored after their own kids grow up. They look forward to holding a little baby again but not having to do the dirty work with it this time.  

Answer 5

well gettig married and having kids is what makes people happy and kids only turn out like brats if their parents raise them that way

Answer 6

Because they do. In their time it was the thing to do.

When you are ready you will settle down.

I was 36 before I was ready to marry and have my first child. Got my single days out of my system first.

Best thing I ever did.

Been happily married and a devoted mother ever since!