Why does my sister hate me so much?

Question

I'm 14 and she's 9. We used to get along...okay, we fought, but not too much. I feel like we never talk and I've been trying to include her more when I have friends over and stuff, but she's been basically giving me the silent treatment for some reason :S She hates when when I even say hi to her friends and always tells me she hates me...I know it shouldn't bother me, but it does. Sometimes she even makes me cry...I mean, we're sisters, we're supposed to love each other and it kills me because I love her, but she couldn't care less about me.

I just don't know what to do. Why did this happen all of the sudden? I want my sweet little sister back!

10 minutes ago, her and her friend were outside and i went into my garage to get a drink and she's like, "Go away!" It was weird, I told her i was just getting a drink and then i was going swimming and she's like, no you're not! me and lane are! (her friend) And then she's like, "I hate you! You ruin my life!" And ran away, so now im in my room asking this question....advice?

Answer 1

did u say something to her u may not quite remember? maybe she feels like ur too much of an adult compared to her and she feels like ur in her space do u tell her what to do? that could cause a hate from a kid maybe she just needs some space to feel like herself and feel like she doesnt need everyone to be there all the time kno what i mean give her some space for a little she will come back to u

Answer 2

I think she acts like this because maybe she just wants to be on her own.  She loves you.  It`s just that she doesn`t know how to though.  Ok, so what I` m saying is to just give her some time.  She may rely on her friends, but they don`t know anything.  Before you know it, she`ll be coming to you for boy advice and make-up advice.

Answer 3

Sounds like 'jealousy'--maybe you're getting attention somewhere where she isn't. Jealousy is a big deal at that age--first they look up to you, then suddenly they can develop this kind of envy that leaves them to lash out at you. I remember when I was young I went thru this stage of disliking my older brother. We were like best friends (4yrs apart), I wanted to do everything he did, then I just remember feeling like mom was always choosing his side 'cause he was older so that changed our relationship for a short time. I guess it bothered me 'cause I felt like he got older, got to do more stuff, and people listened to him more. It's just a stage--trust me! She'll come around--no friends can replace a sister.

Two thumbs up to you for still being nice and not ignoring her--very mature of you ;-)

Answer 4

age difference maybe?

maybe she wants her own space...

you're so lucky to have a sister