Why does my son get so clingy?

Question

I have to go out to owork tonight (doesn't happen often) and my son is being really off about it. He said that I shouldn't go and that I promised him we would spend some time together tonight (which I didn't say). He's tuggin at my hear strings, but I have to go and now he's in a complete mood and is giving me the cold shoulder.

What can I do? He has 2 sisters and they're fine about it.

Answer 1

Is it possible the reason he does this is because he gets attention for not being fine with it? Hes pulling at your heart strings and he thinks your gonna cave and stay home. Maybe he learned that from your actions? I am not trying to be accusatory. I never had to deal with clinginess or seperation issues with my own children so i can only offer what goes through my mind lol. Maybe just explain you need to go and drop it. Dont continue the conversation or mention it again.

Answer 2

how old is he? if hes young then its his age but if not he's probably doing it for attention,go to work then do something nice with him after,also explain why you have to go so you can buy him things!

Answer 3

Tell him, "Mommy is leaving for work and I know you are upset about it. Can you tell me why?" Listen to his answer. If he wants to spend time with you, explain to him you are busy tonight, but you wish you could. It will make them feel better. Promise to do something he wants to do tomorrow. Don't forget to follow through.

Answer 4

havent we answered about 57 versions of this question over the last few weeks. if none of our answers are doing it for you try getting a book on childcare issues.

Answer 5

I agree that it could easily be his age or wanting attention. He just doesn't like the change. You said that you have to work tonight which doesn't happen often and now he is getting moody about it. Seems like he doesn't like change and maybe he is worried that if you go this time you will go again tomorrow night and the night after. He probably thinks that the only way to keep that from happening is to keep you from going tonight. Careful, he may play the sick card before you leave. Just tell him that even though you didn't say you would do something with him tonight you will definitely make it up to him and his sisters for the change in plans. He'll get over it. Maybe stop at the store on the way home and get him something cheap but you know he would like and wake him up when you get home to show him that you came back and brought him something for taking it so well and being a big boy. Again, I don't know his age so this may not work.....

Answer 6

talk to him and ask him why he is doing this maybe he feels insecure, does he have a baby sitter ? ask  him if the babysitter is hurting him in any way.no matter even  if it is a family member ask anyway.