Why does my wife want to hAVE A SECOND BABY IF WE ARE DOING SO GOOD WITH OUR THREE YEAR OLD NOW?

Question

i LOVE MY KID SO MUCH AND i FEEL i WOULD OT LOVE THE SECOND CHILD AS MUCH AS HER

Answer 1

if u feel ready just do it, u will love both the same i promise u that becuz i know, i had a baby and i used to say the same thing and now i love them both..

Answer 2

I worked with a woman who had a 4 year-old and was pregnant with her second child and I remember being shocked when she said, "I'm afraid I won't love him as much as my first. I can't imagine loving anyone as much as I love Evan." But later I saw her with him and you could just see that she was so in love with her baby. I think you won't believe how much your heart will open and you won't be able to imagine life without him or her.

Answer 3

It is called she misses being a mom to a baby and most mothers feel it proper to have a sibling for te other child to grow up with.  Many parents feels it is unfair to raise only one child.  Needless to say she wants more then one kid this should be easy for you to realize.  You never know how you will treat the other child before you actually have it you will love them both as much as the other.  It is always quite normal to love the first born a little more then other children to follow.  Look at it this way if you already have say a boy and you have a girl then you will have one of each most parents dream of this.

Tell her how you feel but I really doubt she will change her views on not having another child.

Answer 4

then you aren't very loving. if its your child then whats not to love?

Answer 5

Then for sure don't have another..... one kid will cost you $250,000 to age 18, and that is with nothing extra... just a full belly tv, texting and some dope in hs.... no symphony tickets for your family, no braces, no RVing, no horse, no art or music lessons, no travel to Italy ,,, nada, hon.  And as well, you putting another on this planet leaves a big foot print.... there are 6.5 billion of us now, and our little rock is too crowded..... in 30 years, there will be 8.3 billion.  If she wants another, think of adoption... because truly, this little planet needs no more kids, not hers, yours nor mine.  Check into Populationconnection.org.... I got this site recommended to me.   and it is a shocker..

Be the best parents and dad to one, and open up your heart to a child who will never have a home...

As well, go look around Walmart, or Costco... the gomers working there were never able to fund an IRA, so at 74 they have to still work.... KIds are great for sure, the the costs?????

PSSSST  And for sure, don't have one because some of the 13 year olds on here think that they will be friends... that for sure in no guarantee.  squabbling families abound, and no, your only child won't be lonely, I promise...

Answer 6

Your wife sees that you have it so good with the three year old...it'll be the same for the second - is her opinion.

You can't possibly guarantee to yourself about a feeling you can't relate to if you've never experienced it.  In other words, you can't know what it would feel like to love any more or any less, a second child that you will have.

When you have it so good, that's all you'll ever give.  I don't understand why you worry about a "feeling," rather than the evidence that you two are capable parents.

If you don't want a second child because you think 2 is too many - let your wife know...don't come up with excuses.

Answer 7

A woman wants to have a child for many different reasons. Maybe she wants the first child to sure the happiness that comes with a sibling. I think that you are just nervous about sharing your love, but don't worry you will be a good father, to both.  

Answer 8

i am a women who has a 14 mnth old.... i also have a 2 month old and from my personal experience my reasoning for wanting to have another child is because i was doing so well with the first and it was extremely easy... i was sure that i would be  capable of balancing two children working keeping a house together and staying in shape because it was so easy to do it with my first child...... something i dint take into consideration and i wish  i would have is that allllll children are going to be different..... unlike my 14mnth old my 2 mnth old isnt sleeping through the night...... he has reflux wich causes him to be fussy AND NEED TO BE FED CEREAL ALONG WITH BOTTLES ....being fed cereal causes him to be fussy from constipation....... no sleep at night and when i wake up i have to get a toddler and newborn ready and head off to work then come back and get no sleep/////// very difficult...... i love both my children dearly and it  is not easy.......... i would just advise that you inform your wife that its diffcult and not all children are the same and having another child may cause your oldest to become jealous and needy..... if you do decide to have a child just get a strong support system that would be willing to help..... ecspecially with house work..... and relief from childcare..... hope you understand AND this helps you and your wife make the decision...... p.s. the love is all the same

Answer 9

You don't think you would love a second child as much as the first one? You don't sound like a very good father honestly. How can you say you don't think you would love a new child?? WOW that's really......awful of you.

But all that aside, tell her. If you don't want another child then you must tell her. She will hate you FOREVER if you do have one and you truly do not want it. But keep in mind, if you wife wants more children and you do not, you are going to break her heart. This is a delicate situation but you have to be honest.

Good luck

Answer 10

You would love the second child just as much.  Some parents want to have children closer in age so the children can play together.  Your daughter is 3 now and would be 4 by the time the baby was born.  Your wife might be missing the baby stage now.  How many kids did she say that she wanted?  Most parents don't just want one child, some do, but most want at least two.  I have known some people that are an only child, and they had always wished that they had a sister or brother.  

My daughter is an only child(same age as yours) and I know that she would be happier if she had a sibling-someone to play with.  

Answer 11

Believe me you always have room for one more love one! It just keeps getting better and better man! You will be surprised at how much love can grow and expand beyond anything that you thought was possible once your open to it.  

Answer 12

usually women want to have children that around the same time they have the first one. She probably feels that shes not get any younger so she wants to get over wiith it now. Also she probably want the second child to be a few years apart with the 3year old so when they get older they can be friends.

Answer 13

It seems she would like to have more than one child.  Now that the one you have is walking and out of diapers, she thinks it's a good time for the second.

Answer 14

Maybe she wants to have your child this time.

They say 1 out 3 men are raising another man's child without knowing it.  That's more than 33%.

Good Luck