Why does nobody believe in marriage anymore?

Question

I read a lot of the questions and answers in the Marriage and Divorce section. It seems like nobody considers marriage to be sacred anymore. If your vows are till death do you part, why do you think so many give up so easy?

Answer 1

The world says if its too hard walk away.  There are more people who live for themselves in society. Our minds are bombarded with what I want, what I need, what make ME happy in music, television, media, etc..  There is little emphasis on what will make my spouse happy, feel loved, and our families needs.  This is sad but true.

Most people believe in the sanctity of marriage, I hope.  Many of the people here are troubled.  

Christians are supposed to live in the world, not BE of the world.      

Answer 2

People aren't as strict and proper as they used to be, at least that's the way I see it. People now are more open and free about what they want and how they feel, and if they aren't happy, they'll get a divorce. Also, many couples tend to rush into marriage without thinking. Its just getting to where no one really thinks about the vows or commitments anymore, its just about being husband and wife. (For however long that may be)

Answer 3

Divorce is not easy.  It only looks easy in Hollywood.

Answer 4

In this day and age, people do not value marriage as much anymore.  (For some people that is.)  Look at all of the celebrities, it's always about divorces and pre-nup nightmares.  Also it is now socially accepted to get a divorce whereas before divorces were never allowed.

Answer 5

People give up easy because they can...it is easier to get a divorce than stay and work through your problems.  That is the sad reality.

Answer 6

because in this world we live in these days monogamy is monarchy over all.  its very rare to find faithful people now a days because one females are coniving and very great liars and two males never think with the right head and that leads to disaster. its not marriage that isnt sacred anymore its the people plus many marriages are rushed and not thought thoroughly plus many people get married when they are very young and soon there after realize that they made a mistake it sucks i know its so easy to get married now a days its become a trendy thing to do i guess

Answer 7

Honey, I guess marriage like everything has gone to the dogs. I'm an old gal that's been married for 36 years. I'm beginning to think that it's better to just live together these days, because it saves the cost of divorce. No one stays together and works things out. In the olden days you couldn't go back home because most families were too poor to take you in with your family. Then you didn't have a choice, you had to stay and work on your marriage. Now most women work too so that makes it easier to leave.

Answer 8

They are lazy and don't want to make it work.  There still is a lot of abuse going on behind closed doors too.  That was why I finally left my marriage of 30-years.  Constantly being told you are stupid, cannot do anything right, don't clean up after him when he spills coffee from end of the house to the other.  The final straws were when he made our new house all white and bitched that it was never clean when he was the one who tracked it up.  He demanded that I let him have a girlfriend and allow her into our bedroom.  There are a lot of reasons a marriage fails and it is not just one side.  If one is trying to make it work and the other isn't, it isn't going to work.

Answer 9

I don't think it's that they give up easily.  I believe in most cases it's just one or both growing apart over a period of time and there is just no way to get back what once was.  Believe me, divorce in most cases is an ugly situation and the only winners are the attorney's.  Most people who get married do take their vows seriously but life throws people many curves and people change.  

Answer 10

I don't know.  When I got married to my ex, I did not follow my heart and run far, far away...it just seemed like, ok, we are dating, time to get married.  He was older than me and manipulated me pretty good, I was so naive.  After our divorce he got a 24 yr old pregnant (he's 46)...glad I finally followed that nudge I had always felt and left.

Answer 11

Just had this conversation, sort of, with my boyfriend last night.  I can't tell you how we got on the subject, but I told him that I believe in forever when it comes to marriage.  He's been divorced twice, and I have been divorced once, so we both have some experience on the subject.

I can't speak for everyone, but I know I didn't give up easily..and I know he didn't either.  Yes, there are people who just decide if it doesn't work that divorce is easy...well, it isn't.  

I won't tell you "marriage is sacred".  I will tell you when I decide (IF I decide) to commit again, then divorce is off the table as an option.  We will either work through things together, or we will work through things together.  

Now..if abuse or cheating enter the picture..all bets are off.  

Answer 12

Because 2 out of 3 marriages end in divorce. Why even bother to get married with odds like that?

Answer 13

I think so many marriages fail because people rush into it. Then those two people end up fighting a lot because they don't really have that much in common.

Answer 14

I agree with you.  However I am also seeing quite a bit of backlash to those treating marriage like a piece of trash that can just be thrown away.  Hopefully people will either get married and respect their vows and the sanctity of marriage or they will choose not to marry at all.

Answer 15

Point blank - Marriage either ends in Death or Divorce...

Answer 16

Today people are all about immediate gratification and not sticking with something thru the hard times.  So many people are very selfish and marriage requires a person to put the marriage before their own wishes sometimes.  

It's sad because the satisfaction and happiness that come from working thru the hard times and coming out on the other side stronger and just being with someone who knows you maybe better than you know yourself and still loves you more than anything is so wonderful that I can't fully express it.  

Answer 17

People become complacent and when something goes wrong, they are not willing to work on it and decide to just throw it away.  

Answer 18

I believe that, I would never get a divorce, it is best to get it  right the first time around. What ever happened to morals?

Answer 19

Just another sign of the times.  

Answer 20

I believe it is because now there are not to many people that can say their parents are still together. Personally it is just like the human race to take the easy way out and divorce is the solution. If it is going to be this way, we should do away with the whole tradition and just live with someone until you get bored with them and then trade them off like a car.