Why does she ALWAYS get mad at me for helping??

Question

I'm trying to help resolve some problems between my cousin and her friends. They are 2 years younger then me,so i believe that i can give them good advice. I do know whats going on, and I know why they're all mad at each other. So I've been trying to help and set things straight. I'm not mean about it either. But every time I say something to my cousin about it she gets mad at me. So why would she get mad for me trying to help? She just doesn't understand.

Answer 1

She gets mad at you because she thinks you're treating her like a baby, she doesn't think you're the only one who can solve this, she probably wants to do it by herself, so she can prove that she's just as good as you to her friends.  My younger sister gets mad at me when I try to help to, since it's her friends "she can do it herself", just lay back a while, and tell her that you're there if she needs help. Good luck!

Answer 2

If you don't know what is going on why are your given your cousin advice! She gets mad at you for getting in her business as if you have it all square away. The advice is for you to stop giving advice when nobody is asking you.

Answer 3

I think she understands in that your trying to help. The only solution i can really think of is that she may want to try and resolve it on her own. I  know your being a great cousin in trying to resolve her friend problems. The answer and solution may be in letter your cousin figure it out herself. If the situation is that your cousins friends are picking on your cousin than I would try maybe to straighten them out with changing their attitude. If it's a different case then maybe your cousin might want a little bit of privacy.

If they were friends and then just all got mad at each other. Try and invite them all over for a movie or something if you can. Then constantly try to share things that they have in common.

I hope this advice helps.

Answer 4

It sounds like she wants to be able to fix her problems by herself. She doesn't want to be treated like a kid and that's how she feels when you are trying to fix her problems for her.

Answer 5

She doesn't want to admit that she's wrong. She probably wants her friend to come and apologize to her first, or else she thinks that she'll seem desperate to get her back as a friend. Just get them to talk it out.

Answer 6

You probably know yourself, that someone can tell you what is best but unfortunately until you figure that out yourself, it won't become real.  (ie. it's like the saying that a child won't learn the stove is hot until they touch it.)

I'm sure your cousin does appreciate that you care for her, however probably feels you don't understand (even thought I'm sure you do).  

Perhaps instead of trying to tell her what you think is best, just let her know that you are there for her and if she wants to help, then you would love to listen.  

Hope this helps!