Why does she always come round?

Question

i have been married for a couple of years now but my husbands ex wife always comes round they have older kids with each other but they don't hardly discuss them why does she always come round i feel like a stranger in my own home when shes there and shes forever wanting to borrow money not that she ever pays it back i have told my husband my feelings about this but he just says if you don't like it you know where the door is!!! please give me advice

Answer 1

He's controlling both of you and you're eating it up! "you know where the door is" is saying he does not care about your feelings and certainly has no respect for you. Leave him now.!!!!

Answer 2

sounds like a charmer....choose the door  

Answer 3

This guy is not even worth the effort to write and ask this question. Tell him that you have thought about "where the door is" and you want HIM to use it to get out. The nerve of him. When you tolerate his ex-wife coming over and his total disrespect for you, you just encourage it more. Don't tolerate it anymore tell him to get his nasty self out. You won't be losing anything of any value that's for sure.

Answer 4

u need to leave if he wont be consider your felling how can it be that she is more  important than u? dont let her borrow ur money , say that if its his own then he can do as he wishes, but dont let any money come out of ur pocket for her start standing up for yorself.

Answer 5

Sounds like his loyalties lie with his other wife as well.  At least you know he won't put you on the back burner when he marries a third time.  The man is loyal.

Answer 6

She comes around because your husband gives her money just a stray cat who always comes around for food left out.

Get hubby to dry up the free money and she will stop coming around...

Answer 7

You have two choices. You either put up with this and hope it will just fade, or you give the hub an ultimatum: her or me, make your choice. Then you have to be prepared for the result of that. You know whare the door is, and so should he.

Answer 8

I am more worried about your husband than her. What kind of reply was that to give you!  He should be supporting you on this. You are his wife now, not his ex. Your feelings should come first in a matter like this.

I would be fuming if anyone tried to make me put up with an ex wife always hanging around in the new marital home. Gosh, it's one thing to remain on good terms with your ex, but it's quite another to have her hanging out in your new wife's home two years into the new marriage!

I really think your husband needs to start treating you more like his wife, and her more like his ex - as in the past, and in her own house, not yours!

I have a feeling you are way too nice and getting yourself taken advantage of. You are doing that because you don't want to rock the boat with him. Am I right?  But wait a minute, that's your boat too, and it's not you that is rocking it!  You are not the prob and don't ever forget that.

Anyway, I hope that your husband will eventually see how this is upsetting you and come to his senses. And I wish you all the best for an ex free future :)