Why does she feel she needs?

Question

my friends cell phone numbers?

Im 18 almost 19.

Recently, she was talking to me and she said something about how if I was out with friends and something happened to me and I wasn't answering my phone then she could call theirs but I don't see how that helps.

She was hinting to me that she wanted me to give her their numbers.

All my friends are 18+ [like me], past their parents having their friends number and their friends parents numbers and all that other tween stuff and I don't think they would appreciate me giving their numbers out.

I know its only my mom, but she is such a clingy over protective parent that she would call them over little things like if I was actually there with them like I said I was.

This is stuff that is ok for her to do to my brother [14] not me.

A] Why does she feel the need to do this NOW? Its not like she did this when I was younger when it was actually appropriate.

B] If she ask again what would be a good counterarguement?

Answer 1

Okay, as a mother, there is no good counterargument against giving her the numbers. She's your mom and she loves and worries about you.

That said, I too was once a teenage girl. The best thing you can do to counteract her and her motives here is to be where you say you're going to be, do what your supposed to be doing, don't lie, and answer the phone when she calls. If however she calls repeatedly, then you need to gently but firmly say, (and you will have the right and the "ammo" to do so if you do as I mention above) Mom, i love you, I know you are concerned but i am where i said I was doing what I said, I will be home on time (ifthats an issue). and I will talk to you when I get in.

I hope this helps, I personally think that they years between 18 and 22 are harder than the "tween" years! Good Luck!!!

Answer 2

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but most parents I know have at least one contact number for their kids and yes even the ones well over 18.  My mother does.  And I'm 23.  

The reason being is that she knows you're out and about more and there's likely to be more stuff that would happen to you now than would have happened when you were 14.  

If you think she's trying to snoop, make up an excuse but personally I think that you're just a normal 18 year old with 18itis.  If you don't understand what I mean, you will in a few years.  She's just watching out for you.

Answer 3

My mom and I have an agreement. I can leave a sealed envelope with all the contact information of the people I will be with, the place I will be with, etc., and she will not touch it unless there is some kind of emergency.  The sealed envelope was her idea, so that I could no that she didn't open it just to be nosy, but I trust her completely so it's rather unnecessary.

Mind you, I haven't felt a need to use the system yet, but I will if I ever feel I need the privacy.

Would your mom be open to a system such as this? Maybe it would be a fair compromise that you two could agree on.

Answer 4

Because it makes sense. No one reaches the age where safety is not a factor. There is NO good counterargument. What if your mom went out and was late getting home? Hours past the time she said she would return. Would you not worry? Would you  not call around to find her? What if she was found dead somewhere? What if perhaps you could have had her numbers and called her friends and you could have gone looking earlier and found her before she was murdered?

Answer 5

tell your Friends maybe you can give one of the numbers they don't have to answer

Answer 6

Has violence in the area increased etc? Or have you recently started turning your phone off or ignoring her calls?

B. Get an emergency card made with your details on (and her details as emergency contact) and keep it with you at all times in your wallet or something.

Answer 7

will fIrst of all your 18 already right.... but hey your her kid no matter how old u are... your always will but yea  i think she doing it cuz she might have saw something on t.v or read something on the newspaper that got her attention.... but  hey if your not doing nothing wrong then there should be a problem giving her the phone #'s hey I'm 19 and i do that with my parent i mean i have all the LIBERTY that i want why CZ they no where i am.... and we are going 2 go out i call her and let her no where we going  and what time i should be home ma that's all i can say..................... GOOD LUCK.................PEACE

Answer 8

Privacy is privacy!

Don't give the numbers!

However safty is always

important!

Your friends have parents

so give the numbers of

your friends parents.

If your mother is an idiot

I'm shure your friends

parents will be able to

figure that out on their

own.