Why does she hate me?

Question

Why does my "mother" label me with mental illnesses? Create s*** all the time? I've never been diagnosed with anything!!!!!! I'm sick of it. If I was diagnosed, the school would have been told and they haven't! Does she really THINK I'm ill??? why?! what the h**l is wrong with her? is SHE the one who's ill? she had a breakdown when she was 16, my dad told me. and he told me she is sick in the head. why does she keep lying all the time? I'M SICK TO DEATH OF IT!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

You may not get along with her

You may not believe everything she says

She may make you angry

but at the end of the day she's your mother and she deserves respect and love just for being so

One day you will be a parent and will realise just how hard it is.  Nobody gives you a handbook of how to be a parent and get it right all along.

She may have problems but she should be getting love & support from you and your dad.

Answer 2

Nobody hates you. Calm down and take deep breathes. When your mum is being a pain just count to ten in your head and go out for a walk, or up to your room. Don't let her effect you.  

Answer 3

Well I had a good look at your previous questions: you worry about stuff yourself like your brother has Tourettes syndrome so will you get it ...also you asked 2 questions on "incest" but really you were asking about inbreeding and worrying about your grandparents being cousins. Well here's what I think:

1) You're not mad. You're obviously very clever and your brain goes on and on thinking out stuff- you're not manic though either. You're probably a little introverted and love time alone thinking. You're highly strung a little like all teenagers.

2) Lots and lots of kids have "Odd" parents, or parents addicted to valium/xanax or parents with obsessions or really bad depression...she probably fits into one of these, poor thing.You're just suddenly old enough to have realised her oddness...one day you'll be mature enough to be her best friend and you'll probably stablise her. Don't take her too seriously and just say to yourself when she tries to emotionally blackmail you " What has this all to do with me" and step out of the difficulty. Your Dad's trying to get you to realise this and not take her too personally or seriously

3) We're not genetic robots....Thats just rubbish from that pseudoscientist Richard Dawkins. Just cos your brother has tourettes doesn't mean you'll get it or just cos your mother is a little nuts doesn't mean you're programmed to be nuts. Most peoples ancestors were cousins, if you looked carefully enough...its not that genetically harmful or unavoidable in small, isolated communities of the past. Genetics is about to be defunked by EPIGENETICS, which sees the genetic elements in mental illness etc really influenced by the control of genes which is heavily influenced by foodstuffs eg folic acid and probably viruses people get while in the mothers womb

So.....get over it...you're normal. Stay clear of drugs ( which influence your epigenetic profile and cause a good percentage of mental illnesses by altering brain plasticity) and drink moderately and use your introversion to your own advantage: step back from problems, think a little objectively and plan, plan, plan your life...college, career, moving out of home, boyfriend, family

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Yes I am a stalker ! ... no, ofcourse not. I looked at your questions because I'm intelligent and I wasn't going to address a question as dramatic as yours without looking at the background..I read the obviously related stuff  and the impression I got was that like all teenagers you probably read too much into things....like you just had a big row with your Mom and it seems like the end of the world. Give her a break too cos she's probably living a life of sheer terror due to anxiety/depression and don't take her too seriously.

But, I'm over the moon about your stalker comments:D ( ...and Yes, I probably need to get " a life"). See ya and don't worry too much about stuff...life gets easier as you get older...time

Answer 4

I'm so sorry. It does sound like your mother is a little off. If she has mental problems she needs to be on some kind of medication. Hang in there. Find someone to talk to, a guidance concealer or minister. Bless you honey.

Answer 5

There are some parents who in their minds think/create a pretend illness that their children supposedly have so that they can get attention from others, for example doctors and other medical professionals, some parents even go as far as to create the childs symptoms and it's all for attention.

Your mum sounds like she is repeating what perhaps happened to her when she is younger.  Be strong, know yourself, deep down you know who you are!! Stick up for yourself.  Don't let her think your crazy, just trust that she is the one with the problem not you.  Surround yourself with other family members and close friends...good luck to you!!

Answer 6

Try to relax alittle and dont stress over it. If u really have no issues then dont let this bother you. Ignore her, dont let your mother get to u like this,

Answer 7

My mother has a few choice words for me at times too! I think you need to talk to someone about this! Your obviously having feelings of upset and anger, have a chat with your GP

Answer 8

It sounds like your mother may be the 1 with a mental illness.Maybe your dad should make her see a doctor.They have meds that help people and u guys could start having a better relationship  

Answer 9

Is there anywhere else that you could go live until you are old enough to be on your own   it isn't good for someone so young to live under so much stress.  Ask you dad if you could go live with an older sibling or and aunt or a family friend.  

Answer 10

She probably thinks you a bit of a nut, are you?

You are way too serious about this whole matter.

you must be a drama queen.

Answer 11

Maybe she does have a mental illness and though you don't have the condition, you somehow remind her of herself.

Perhaps she is insecure and simply *needs* someone else to have problems too.

Hope it gets better.

Answer 12

same thing happened to me..

my mom actually cried when she found out i wasn't mentally ill.. and hwen my therapist told her she should get checked out she filled yelled cussed and refused to pay him.. then took me to another one and did the same thing..

moms are crazy....

Answer 13

Its not your problem its hers. Its her stress shes just taking it out on you.

its not your fault just being a mother a teenager can be a big deal for parents they can flip out like that.  

Answer 14

=( yea, my mom is a phsyco too. I feel your pain.

Answer 15

One word FAMILY COUNSELING!!!!!!

Answer 16

She is only lying to cover her insecurities. Unfortunetely, she brings it out on you. Try talking to her, and if that doesnt work then just try to be really patient and obeying torwards her. I know it sucks that you cant rely on her, but ask your friends for advice. Good luck!

Answer 17

Yeah your mom sounds so wrong about everything.