Why does she think she has the right to be mad at me? ?

Question

ok so i have been friends with this girl for 15 years when we were younger we were best friends and as we got older we aren't as close. About 2 years ago she decided that she was going to be a stripper witch i had a major problem with seeing that i think strippers are immoral. but she said she was going to stop and never do it again so i let it go. she got pregnant and got married on a side note i stayed with her almost her the whole time she was prego when her husband was at work. she was parodied that she was going to go into labor. anyway so like a year ago i found out that she had gone back to the strip club to see if she could start dancing again and they said she needed to loose some weight (from the baby) so she did some kind of lipo shot things to loose weight fast and than she went back to striping and lied to me about it. so i stopped talking to her for almost a year after i found that out but it was not only that she was striping and lied about but also after i confronted her about it she told me she did not care what i thought or how i felt she was going to do what she wanted. ok so all that happened i stopped talking to her for a year than she came crying back to me saying she missed me and that she would never ever do it again blah blah blah. so we started taking again but we have never been the same. well i just told her that me and my husband were going to move 5 hours away in a few years (like 2 or 3 years) and now she is not talking to me. WTF what right does she have to do that after all the stuff she did to me. oh yeah did i mention that all 15 years of our friendship she used me.

Answer 1

first off, we all have different beliefs. i don't believe that you should have absolutely cut off all ties with your bestfriend because she was a stripper. if you believe in morals and such, shouldn't you think that judging people is wrong. you judged your best friend of 15 years and stopped talking to her. grow up, people are going to do what they want with their life. some people will make decisions that others don't approve of, but you don't shut them out of your life for that.

i think that she was wrong for lieing to you, but what else could she do? obviously you two had a relationship where you couldn't go to each other and know that you both had support behind yall's decisions. a friendship of 15 years should have developed atleast some kind of back up where you two were there for each other no matter what. and you showed her no other way to do what she wanted to without lieing to you.

to me it seems like you both need to grow up and accept that as people grow older things change. people make decisions others don't support but judging them is not the answer. settle your differences. both of you guys need to get over the fact that your 15 year long relationship wasn't as strong as you thought it was.

judging how someone chooses to live their life is not your place. learn to back up your friend and love her no matter what she does. her stripping does not effect the outcome of your life.

Answer 2

You had a 15 year friendship, the fact that she has lived her life the only way she knows how is strictly up to her.

When woman come to a crossroads in their lives once in a while one pick the wrong road. When girls learn about their bodies sometimes they confuse s**y as being glamorous. Most woman do not aspire to be strippers sometimes it is the only way for them to make money and that is the only thing that they can control.



You sound like your life is not as hard as hers and she maybe envious of you. I do not want to sound harsh to you but why do you think she needs to answer to you? She is still the same person that you cared for when she was pregnant and that may have confused her about your position on thinking strippers are immoral. When you choose to remain friends with her during her original stripper days is a mixed message. I hope you do not find this offensive but again why are you so harsh about her baby fat and lipo shots, if she needed to loose weight to strip to put food on her table than she is doing what ever it takes to feed her family.

Stop giving her mixed messages, if you feel that you are a moral compass than be her friend, but you have lied to her just as much as she lied to you. Read you note. Stretching the truth is a lie... she may have thought that you were probably the only person in the world that did not judge her by her job but by the character of her soul.

If you do not know what she does for a fact than stop gossiping, it is not becoming of a real lady and it does not make you a better or more moral person than she is. In fact I don't see the difference between you.