Why does she want to be pregnant so much?

Question

okay so i had a miscarriage in Feburay and it like since then my friend has been trying to get pregnant before me. she is not pregnant yet and i am but she is only 19 and its like every 2 weeks shes asking me to go with her to get a test she has only been seeing this guy for nearly 4 months he already has a baby to another girl . when i ask her if she wants the test to come out positive she says i don't know what i want i am so scared but she never uses protection with him ever. should i thalk to her see whats going on is he trying to get her pregnant? i just want to help her she also has a great job that i know she wouldn't want to leave and i know her dad woul kill her

Answer 1

I think your friend could be pregnant.But what is she trying to prove? Is she really your  friend? And getting pregnant at 19. You had a miscarriage. Does she know the same thing could happen to her as well. And lots of other complicated things happens sometimes .And why would she want to get pregnant for a guy whose already got someone else pregnant. It  makes me mad because there are people who are marry and really wants to have kids and can't.  She is having s*x and is not sure if she wants a baby or not. That is so stupid of her.

Answer 2

I think you are being a very responsible friend for wanting to get behind her situation and help her out. It seems to me as your friend may be wanting some way to relate to you through having a baby too, or even that she is lacking something in her own life and feels that baby will make up for it.

It's a tricky situation as you don't want to pry into her private life too much but at the same time, all doesn't seem well here. I'm sure your friend is knowledgable and sensible enough to realise that not using contraception is the sure-fire way to ensure she has a baby at some point. Perhaps you could try talking to her over a cup of tea - get down to the point, it needs to be done. "So would you say you're trying for a baby now?" - that could be a way into the topic. If she's hesitant to answer, that will probably mean yes. If she denies it - there isn't much more you can do at the moment other than to be there for her if she needs you.

Answer 3

it sounds to me that she wants to be pregnant to maybe trap her boyfriend or because she was jealous of you being pregnant or maybe both. I would not want a child with someone I only knew 4 months and who has a kid already. Sounds like she is insecure and is using a baby to feed on that

Answer 4

how come every women on this site want to be god d**n pregnant!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

Low IQ.

Answer 6

I know someone who deliberatly tricked* a guy into having a baby. She got pregnant 3 times, miscarried the first two times, and each pregnancy she was supposed to be on the pill.

She wasnt.

*when i say tricked, surely the muppet guy had a bit of a suspition after the 2nd pregnancy, but obv not!

So my other friend got pregnant. And lo and behold, so did this girl. My friend thinks this girl got pregnant out of jealousy of her own pregnancy(still with me?)

I've no idea why some girls do this, but there is jealousy in there somewhere. perhaps she wants some attention - maybe she could see the drama and attention you were getting when you were pregnant, and wanted the same?

I'm telling you, if my cousin wasnt male and g*y, he's do the same to me!

Answer 7

What is this? Is it the lastest fashion statement to be a teenage single mom and ruin your life? What happened to family values and raising a kid with two wholesome parents?

Both of you need to grow up. Shame on you. Having a baby is not a joke.

Answer 8

with all do respects she sounds like a bonified dumb ***. females tend to act this way. you wont like hearing this becuase your one yourself. but its a scientific fact that females have half a brain

Answer 9

Sounds like this girl has issues.  She really should be sure if she wants a child, because at the rate she's going, she's going to get one!  Maybe she just feels left out, but only being with a guy for 4 months doesn't sound too promising.  I would sit down and talk to her about it.  Find out where this urge to be pregnant is coming from (him or her) and explain to her why you feel the way you do about her job and her dad.  Sorry, but that's all I've got!