Why does society look down upon an adult who lives with one of their parents?

Question

Just because they are living with their parent, may not mean that they are incapable of making it on their own. Or even if they are, why are they less of a person? Isn't it a positive thing for family to come together in a time of need?

Answer 1

Meh, I guess because teens seem to portray the "I-can't-wait-to-leave-home" vibe that when they actually turn into an adult...not many of them leave. But that's another story.

It depends on how old you are. If you're way in your 30s(or 40s) and have a stable job...no reason for you to stay at home with the parents. Keep in mind that by living under their roof, you have to abide by their rules, regardless of how old you are. I think its only acceptable if the child is going to college and if they want to lessen the financial burden on them, they can stay home.

Other than that, leave the house. Don't leech. Can't stand leeches.

Answer 2

there are many cultures where the adult children doesn't leave their parents home until they are married.  i see nothing wrong with this.  as long as the person is helping and sharing responsibilities and not laying around being waited on hand and foot.

Answer 3

200 years ago, if you couldn't survive on your own you would die.  

Be happy your parents are supportive, just realize that people are only making fun of you.  Not clobbering you over the head with an axe.

Answer 4

our society has always wanted kids to move out on their own and considers it a rite of passage but the truth is it is an individual choice

Answer 5

I am one of those people. I never thought I would be living at home at my age. I am an older single female adult.  Times are tough right now. The cost of living is too high where I live. I moved back home to save money in order to relocate. I pay my mother what I can each month. But, it is not rent. I have 4 Degrees. 3 AA' s and a BA.  But, I am in a rut right now. My younger sister has made mean, rude, snooty remarks to me about my living arrangement with my mother. "You are a freeloader and a bum"  "You can't take care of yourself". "You are not a success and you still live with your mother".  It is none of her business. She knows nothing about my efforts to get housing, a roommate and a higher paying job. At a dinner I met a woman a few years younger than me, who interrogated me about living at home with my mother. I told her she was making me uncomfortable. I know of people who have successful careers and are still living at home. They do it because they want to. In some cultures, you live at home until you marry. If you don't marry, you stay at home as long as you want to. My friend is from Cuba. She has 2 BA Degrees and works full time. She lives with her parents at age 44. My neighbor is 50 and his parents are 80. He works and still lives at home, You are not alone. People are very judgemental.  A house doesn't make the man. No, you are not less of a person.  Not everyone can make it on their own at 18 or 21.  A parent who helps their adult child out financially is a blessing to you.  You will move out when the time is right.  Avoid negative people who don't know what they are talking about.

Email me if you have any other ?'s. Or, need support.

Good Luck!