Why does the middle child have it the hardest?

Question

I'm a middle child. I've got it hard. My lil bro gets babied, and everything is about my older sis. I've had to grow up, so now my mom doesn't even make sure I'm alright when she hurts my feelings or anything. I dont care about that, because I know I'm strong enough to take it.

But why does the middle child have to fight for the attention and get it hardest?

Answer 1

I like to do things on my own but i know i was love all the same and treated the same.

I keep a close eye on my sister as much as possible.

My dad and mom difroced but i know why.

Answer 2

idk it sux though it's becuz your parents think you can take care of your self and your gonna be there 4 awhile unlike your big sis she prob. moving out soon close to 17 or 18 years old and you brother it only little once that's how it usually works out:)

Answer 3

a simple way to explain is...

the older sis is growing up and now is maturing and the mom has to make sure that she wont be getting pregnant or doing the things she's not supposed to do.. make sure she gets to college... she's doing alright...

the youngest now... is now learning from his friends at school is going to learn things he's not supposed to and mom is going to have to teach him otherwise... and because his mind is opening to other things... she has to help him...

now you... you've made it through his stage and now your going through independence... you learning how to work on your own without guidance... and your mom is hoping that you use the things that she taught you to get though.. because she is stressed from both younger and older.... she vents on you because to her she thinks you should be able to handle on your own...

so as the middle child you usually become the stronger/better child of the bunch... because of the attention deprive... so you just gotta keep your head up and stay strong

Answer 4

Your older sister is growing up fast, and your mom doesn't want her to, like an other parent, and she's making sure she's safe and that she has a good life. Your younger brother is still little and gets babied just like you use to when you were his age. Your mom wants to make sure he's making good choices too. This doesn't mean your mom doesn't care about you. You have to consider that it may be a little selfish because as you said before, your sister is gone to juvi, which is absoloutly terrifying for a parent, and your mom has every right to worry about her. Mean while, she has to worry about normal things like, her job, and making enough money to keep the house, keep both of you fed while your sister is gone,etc. Normal mom worries are bad enough without extra ones like your kid being sent to juvi for a whole week. My mom freaked out when I went to camp for two weeks, and camp is a safe enviorment with oppertunitys to meet new kids, get exersize and good food, and have fun. She still worried though, because she loves me. Your sister is going for a whole week to a place which is a kid version of jail. Or at least, that's probably how your mom sees it. Taking care of your brother and stuff isn't too much to ask in that kind of situation. I understand it sucks to not get as much attention as your younger brother, and older sister, but sometimes you just have to roll with the punches. Life is tough, and the sooner you learn that the better. If you keep holding on, and be tough through the hard times, as your brother and sister get older, them and your mother will soon realize what a trooper you are. Your brother will evetually thank you for taking good care of him, when your mom and older sister couldn't. Your older sister will thank you for taking care of things at home while she was away, and your mother will thank you for supporting her through the rough patches, and helping her out so much by doing small things like house chores, making sure your brother eats ALL of his veggies,etc. I wish the best for you, and your family. Good luck! :)